Too much of everything is bad.. we dont have a baby sitter and my wife doesnt work but as my baby will grow up we will try to have him more company with kids around us or with family kids.. I remember my sister younger one when he was left alone ih play school the first time.. he kicked half the school and the rest half was rescued when his mon rushed back to school.. Pakistanis families dont ghave a lot of babay sitting as mostly women are house wives..
Fungi, that'd only happen if you were my mother and insisted on staying at home.
Have some mercy. Get a babysitter.....any babysitter.
hiccy, it's interesting that even a broad-minded girl like yourself had to use "mother" as the care-giver. You dont think dads are good at this ? Or you have never seen any dad taking care of his child?
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You used to be a nannie?
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Woodywoodpecker
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Lousie Woodward was in my Law School, ulu.
can u find out if she did it?
I think having a french speaking baby sitter at home has its own fringe benefits. I would consider being a stay-home-dad if we get a frenchie.
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You mean a Freedom babysitter?
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then funguy will be wearing his freedom dress - dhoti
well we can play the freedom and slavery game all day long...but the fact remains, Frenchie is the way to go.
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can u find out if she did it?
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She did, she was on the same practice course as my friends and i saw her in the library. Plus it's been in the news too. She now has all the qualifications to be a lawyer and i'll be heartbroken if she can get taken up by a firm and not innocent people like me.
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I agree with the part that spending a lot of time with paid care-givers (baby sitters, fullt-time pre-kindergarten etc) must have some harmful effects. There were multiple studies recently (some were covered by CNN a few weeks ago and some by local news stations- again radio), which analyzed the behavior of kids who were tended (almost) full time by their parents, compared to those who were dropped off to paid care-givers, and they found that kids who grow up with parents tend to be more social (? - cz common wisdom would suggest that those with other kids their age would be more social) and more confident.
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I agree with this. IMHO, kids who spend more time with babysitters than with their own parents are more disadvantaged simply cause the parents miss out on so much. In some instances, the relationship that should be built between parents and kids simply is non-existent if kids are spending more time with babysitters than with both parents.
Feel free to disagree. This is my personal opinion and I'm not telling anybody to change their lifestyle or anything like that.
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hiccy, it's interesting that even a broad-minded girl like yourself had to use "mother" as the care-giver. You dont think dads are good at this ? Or you have never seen any dad taking care of his child?
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The term mother was used as the care giver in a similar fashion to when God is referred to as a "he".
But a good point, although things may be changing for the better, I still have a feeling that although fathers are capable of loving and caring for their children...mother and child often have a special bond, this may be the 9 months of pregnancy or the hormones. Either way, I definately think that the bond between the mother and child is usually stronger than with the father
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Frenchie is the way to go.<<
I wouldnt have anything else for my hotdog.
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avoid the ketchup in ur eagerness
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Mehnaz, Osama bin Laden was reared at home until he finished high school. By his Mama.
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He sure is one confident bloke.
Roman,
Yes children can get depressed, especially around certain adults stop taking with you when you go meet Madhanee. Let them know there's more to life after 50.
Pipe down dadee I'm looking out for the kids innit.
It's funny that people think 90% of Pakistani children are raised by mothers. The truth is they are either raised by grandparents or on their own. Walking down any mohalla, street in a major city or small village and you will notice children ranging in ages from toddlers to early teens just running around, playing with dirt, or not doing anything at all.
And as soon as they make friends in mohalla, they come home just for lunch, dinner and sleeping.
I am sure, most taliban went through similar upbringing.
I never said that leaving children with babysitters was wrong. What I was trying to say was that if parents do feel that they have to leave kids with babysitters, then they better make sure to spend some quality time with their kids and actually get to know them when kids are in their care. You'll be surprised how many parents out there just hand their kids over to a nanny during the day, and rather than spending time with their kids in evenings or weekends, they find something else to occupy their time. Both parents and kids miss out and only an aritificial relationship exists between the two.
So, if a babysitter is employed, the parents should make it a point to actually spend time with their kids. This should be applied even if there is a stay-at-home parent .... there are plenty of parents like that who still don't know their kids.
Khair, that's just my opinion. :)
interesting discussion
funguy had a very good post about the variety of experiences a kid can get at a day care. I am nto sure why people look at it as if parents who have kids in day care do not care about the kids, or as some aflatoon noted think that they only need to provide money. Careers are important, self fulfilment is important, and the time the kid spends with them can be quality time.
I know a couple where the wife was not working and preparing for her licensing exams, her mother in law was there with her, but they made it a point that the kid spends 3-4 hours at the day care so they could get their work done plus the kid has all these other expereinces, meeting a vareity of kids, diff learnign games and what nots
I have not seen too many stay at home moms really do a lot like taking their kids out to the park during the day or to a zoo or something, usually that ends up happening on the weekend when the husband is home.
How do we know that the kid is getting proper care at home. atleast people running the daycare center have been formally trained :)
anyways, kids can have a decent upbringing but it takes effort, teh time spent with parents has to be very special and parents need to really make it count, if the kid spends teh day at a day care, plus they need to make sure that it is a good daycare etc. similarly it takes real effort to be a "good" stay at home mom, not just someone who is there and the kids are on cruise control..
I for one would prefer managed day care over baby-sitter at home. As fraudia pointed, they have trained teachers and also it's a supervised environment where other teachers / kids can play a check role. A baby-sitter / nanniee alone at home can do anything (or nothing). I have heard too many horror stories to trust in-home care.
yeah funguy as long as u dont forget the kid in the backseat and make it to the 9 p.m. news for being another moron who forgot his kid in the backseat.
plus u have to be proactive even with managed day care, make unannounces stops, call to see how the kid is doing etc. keep them on their toes that you are taking active interest in your child care.