So meeting up with married men and talking to them is considered what in your la la land?
You are responsible for him not paying attention to his wife and his responsibilities.
I'm not even sure you realize what you're doing.
this is mentioned in my post too.
i want to get married wid a good guy but i dnt know what happens wid me when rishta comes ((
my mom knows abt him n she hates him she thinks he is aftr money n having loads of other girls to talk as well + wife. my family is upset bcoz of me but i cant control itsnot in my hands
guys plx help what should i do to change my mind n move on
i wrote each n everything so u could have a clear idea abt him.
This guy feels no shame in using you for your money, in ditching his wife, and in hurting his wife and her family and his own parents. But at least the guy cared about his own security and well- being though it was at the expense of others.
The strange and sad thing is that you had even lesser sharam/shame compared to him as you willingly allowed him to use you and treat you like dirt.
Put yourself first; you've done the right thing in cutting him out of your life and now don't open that door again. Life is short to begin with and people like you "ex" make it shorter. Instead use your precious time for the people in your life that sincerely love you and for bettering yourself.
your last para is so encouraging.. he has changed me alot but you guys are right... thanx alot for ur advice n support
you are so right :( in shaa ALLAH i will move on now ..
Well, I made a mistake Guddi. You quoted my post before I edited it. The reason I edited it was because I felt the last part sounded harsh and I had scrolled up and read that you have blocked your ex. Since you already took action in removing from your life I thought that the last part of my post was harsh and not applicable; so it was edited. You're on the right track with cutting him out of your life. He never knew how to be a good or decent friend to you; boyfriend/husband to door ki baat hai....and hasn't he sort of proven that with his wife?
Well, I made a mistake Guddi. You quoted my post before I edited it. The reason I edited it was because I felt the last part sounded harsh and I had scrolled up and read that you have blocked your ex. Since you already took action in removing from your life I thought that the last part of my post was harsh and not applicable; so it was edited. You're on the right track with cutting him out of your life. He never knew how to be a good or decent friend to you; boyfriend/husband to door ki baat hai....and hasn't he sort of proven that with his wife?
yes he proved that he is not even a good husband... 1st he left me n married his cousin. and just after 2 months of his marriage he came to back me and asked for 2nd marriage. inspite of all this, he is having so many girls around him to talk n looking for gf as well. he even hides to girls that he is married. he never uploads his wedding pix on fb.
Oh come on !!! her writing is not that bad. At least she tried and I think did a decent job on conveying her thoughts. I have seen you guys read a lot of threads with weird 'urdu written in english' and what not without complaining. Stop acting all cray
you must stop watching all the reality tv shows. This word gave me an itch in the middle of my brain. I cannot scratch it.
please dont judge if you know nothing. i never contacted him after his marriage. he came to me and contacted me. i never talked to him regulary otherwise i could have married him. who is stopping me? there r millions of girl who get married wid already married guy having wife ok but im not one of them. yes i met him once and that was my mistake and i accepted it. im a human not an angel. i loved him n feelings are still here. any way he has many girls around him except me and his wife with whom he talks. we talked like once in a week. so how can i be responsible of anything? u dont even know and blaming me. agar woh itn hi acha hota k meri waja se apni responsibilities chor deta tou kia mujhse pehle hi shadi na kr leta? ya mein yahan post kr rhi hoti? u can read my post i wrote i got disturbed n my heart beats fast when i get any proposal plx advice me what should i do n how should i move on? where the hell i wrote what i talk to him regularly n gonna marry him soon?
I know nothing? Didn't you just type out your dil ka haal?
You're also one of those millions of girls he's talking to. How are you any different?
Ok I hate SMS english posts too, and I barely ever read this kind of stuff, but I didn't have a hard time reading this....if you guys really cannot contribute positively then stay away. Some of you have posted your own problems before and to turn around and give someone else a rough time over tehir problems should be ashamed of yourselves.
OP--everyone gave you good advice. He's gross and he's weird
Ok I hate SMS english posts too, and I barely ever read this kind of stuff, but I didn't have a hard time reading this....if you guys really cannot contribute positively then stay away. Some of you have posted your own problems before and to turn around and give someone else a rough time over tehir problems should be ashamed of yourselves.
OP--everyone gave you good advice. He's gross and he's weird
thanx sara.. you are one of those who really want to contribute positively than making people feel more miserable. I'm here to discuss my problem and get advices and solutions. but some people here love to insult others as they are angel themselves. everyone has different problems and i believe we all are humans not angels.
salam everyone!
1st of all sorry if my english bother u :(
i have been v depressed from a long time so i thought to share wid u guys so u can give me advice.
i met a guy on fb. he was good.we became frndx n afta sometime we decided to meet n it went gud.i started feeling for him n may be he too so he proposed me n i accepted. but he use to give me v little time like few sms and sometimes on call we talked. we met 2nd time n asked me for bday treat i gave him but he didnt bring any gift.then after 3rd time we met he ordered food and ask me to pay the bill i was shocked n embarassed too but i payed the bill. then i started disliking him i thought he is after me just to have food n all.. anyway he called me talk to me everything become normal.then gradually he started ignoring me badly.i was in love wid him i couldnt live widout him.i asked him dat we decided to marry why r u doing this. he said me dat i cant marry my salary is not dat much rite now etc.. he said dat i don't have my own house etc our lyf will b just hand to mouth.i insisted him alot i said i will manage everything since i belong to well off family but he was emotionless n feelingless.he blocked me from everywhere.
after sumtime i found out dat he is having another fb account where only family n cousins r added n what i found out is he got married wid his cousin in interior sindh.when i insisted him for not leaving just after 1 week he got married. he was on honeymoon when i found out i msged him n abused him badly.after 2 month of his marriage he msged me n said it was all of a sudden n i dont lyk my wife i cant live wid her mujhe nhi pata tha k woh aisi hogi n i want to hv 2nd marriage wid u n he will keep his 1st wife too.i asked him where will we live etc.. he said ur father will givr home n we will live there n i will not disclose to anyone about 2nd marriage but u can tell ur friendz n family etc. then he started talking to me,giving me time inspite of having wife.he asks for 2nd marriage all the time.but he use to talk to me on whatsapp n tango.he blocked my no i couldnt msg or call him.then i tell him that u wana marry me bcoz im rich then he said no u will live at my home n i will bring my parents at your home.he changed his statement.we decided to meet n he again said aj kia khilao gi pilaogi? i said nothing then he offered me k kia khaogi etc i said nothing .. then ghar akar he was rude k u didnt offr me lunch n ab dubara lunch kb krwaogi n disappeared for 1 week during that i didntmsg him too. he had no feelings even we met after long time. then aftr 1 week he msged me n said i was joking about lunch n all n lets get married etc i said no i wont destroy ur wife's home.. then he said promise me u will never ever marry anyone else except me.he gives me time now even remain online he talks to other random girlx as well on tango n fb even aftr marriage.
but im deeply in love wid him i dont feel like marrying anyone else. im so changed. when any guy approached me or any rishta i get ill or depressed badly.. my heArt started beating fast as i will die if i marry someone else . one of my frnd say that he has casted some magic or evil effects on me so i don't get married wid anyone except him.. i want to get married wid a good guy but i dnt know what happens wid me when rishta comes :(((
my mom knows abt him n she hates him she thinks he is aftr money n having loads of other girls to talk as well + wife. my family is upset bcoz of me but i cant control itsnot in my hands :(
guys plx help what should i do to change my mind n move on :(
i wrote each n everything so u could have a clear idea abt him.
He seems like a jerk, and is using and abusing you for financially gain, surely you can do better than someone like this, have some self respect and be positive, as time passes you yourself will know he was not right for you, :-)
My sweet patakha guddi, don't be under the impression that he reaps what he sows I have rarely seen this happen to douchebags like this. He'll have the happiest life with his wonderful wife that accepts his scumbag ways of having other women along with his wife. That whole "you reap what you sow" expression is something I have never seen happen to people that really cause pain to others. Very dreamy, wonderful things happen to bad people and very horrible things happen to sweet, good people. That is life, accept it, see how you messed up in this whole situation, why you kept allowing him to treat you this way, learn from it and try your hardest to avoid douchbags like this in the future.
I know the reason you hung on this long is because you were hoping that he would see the light and realize he loves you and can't live life without you. That he would want to change his ways for you.
It's easy for those who have not experienced encountering such a hurtful person in their life to judge you harshly and be all dramatic. Ignore them and feel good that you had the emotional strength to block him out completely from your life don't even think about unblocking the cockroach.
