^ so you know that the solution is in your hands. If it's in our hands then there is no need to be depressed. I know it's tough, but you can do it
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^ so you know that the solution is in your hands. If it's in our hands then there is no need to be depressed. I know it's tough, but you can do it
in shaa ALLAH i will ... 😊
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There is no cure for stupidity .
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^yes there is..its called denial
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You've already gotten gold advice so I will not repeat it
BUT
He is scum...he is the bottom of the pond type scum
AND
You really need to question what you're doing...do you think that you'll be happy after ruining someone else's marriage?
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I am guilty forgive me for this. But I laughed so hard at your English that I fell down my bed and hit my elbow on the ground. I have as they call a "Gomrah" on my elbow. I apologize.
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Oh come on !!! her writing is not that bad. At least she tried and I think did a decent job on conveying her thoughts. I have seen you guys read a lot of threads with weird 'urdu written in english' and what not without complaining. Stop acting all cray
You need to move on
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U r in love and if u r in love u won't see the reality and the reality is that that boy is only using u. If he was honest he would have introduced you to ur family. He wasn't marry and didn't ask u to pay the bill. It is hard to believe but he is someone who just wanted to pass some time with you.
U have to understand this and understand that he doesn't love u. U just believed him because maybe u are in that situation to believe him. But it is better to get rid as soon as possible.
forget him he is not going to marry with you he sees no future in you. You will find a better person. Just enjoy your life and forget him. It will take some weeks but u r going to feel better. In this situation maybe u can't think anything else. But if u r disconnected for a wile u will start feeling better. I didn't read the whole thread so this is a quick advice.
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U r in love and if u r in love u won't see the reality and the reality is that that boy is only using u. If he was honest he would have introduced you to ur family. He wasn't marry and didn't ask u to pay the bill. It is hard to believe but he is someone who just wanted to pass some time with you.
U have to understand this and understand that he doesn't love u. U just believed him because maybe u are in that situation to believe him. But it is better to get rid as soon as possible.
forget him he is not going to marry with you he sees no future in you. You will find a better person. Just enjoy your life and forget him. It will take some weeks but u r going to feel better. In this situation maybe u can't think anything else. But if u r disconnected for a wile u will start feeling better. I didn't read the whole thread so this is a quick advice.
r u right... well he got married with his cousin in interior sindh and after 2 months of his marriage,he came back to me and asked for 2nd marriage. and I'm not gonna do that. he is sincere with no one... he even talks with other girls inspite of having a wife
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You've already gotten gold advice so I will not repeat it
BUT
He is scum...he is the bottom of the pond type scum
AND
You really need to question what you're doing...do you think that you'll be happy after ruining someone else's marriage?
im not ruining anyone's marriage.. I'm not that type of a girl... agar mujhe aisa karna hota tou ker leti mujhe yahan kia zarurat thi advice k liye anay ki.. i just want your views on him.. what do you people think about him after reading my post? that's all i want to know so i can move easily
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Oh come on !!! her writing is not that bad. At least she tried and I think did a decent job on conveying her thoughts. I have seen you guys read a lot of threads with weird 'urdu written in english' and what not without complaining. Stop acting all cray
thanks alot :) let them say whatever they have to say about my english.. they read and felt nothing but english.
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Offer 5 times prayer and seek guidance from ALLAH SWT. Also recite Quran. It will help you to focus on ultimate goal and refine your soul. Seriously, it works....
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Offer 5 times prayer and seek guidance from ALLAH SWT. Also recite Quran. It will help you to focus on ultimate goal and refine your soul. Seriously, it works....
i do offer 5 times prayer and recite quran as well ALHAMDULILAH.. i have recently done umrah as well... it helps alot.. no doubt :)
Really? You're not ruining anyone's marriage?
So meeting up with married men and talking to them is considered what in your la la land?
You are responsible for him not paying attention to his wife and his responsibilities.
I'm not even sure you realize what you're doing.
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Omg i was so disgusted at the guy after reading the op's post however some of the members here are even more disgusting for making fun of op. Get over your complexes! English is not everyones first language so give it a thought. And the members liking such offensive and rude posts, well says a lot about you guys too.
Pathetic.
OP. You need to find a distraction! You will be ok. Believe me, this guy deserves no second chance and you shouldnt in any which way become part of ruining his married life either. So step back and move on to a better direction.
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Omg i was so disgusted at the guy after reading the op's post however some of the members here are even more disgusting for making fun of op. Get over your complexes! English is not everyones first language so give it a thought. And the members liking such offensive and rude posts, well says a lot about you guys too.
Pathetic.
OP. You need to find a distraction! You will be ok. Believe me, this guy deserves no second chance and you shouldnt in any which way become part of ruining his married life either. So step back and move on to a better direction.
thanx zareen for understanding :) people here are more concerned with making fun of english or posts.
well you are absolutely right.. i have already blocked him from everywhere n not gonna talk to him ever again. he is already having so many girls around him except me. so I won't be the part of the guilt of destroying anyone's home.
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Really? You're not ruining anyone's marriage?
So meeting up with married men and talking to them is considered what in your la la land?
You are responsible for him not paying attention to his wife and his responsibilities.
I'm not even sure you realize what you're doing.
please dont judge if you know nothing. i never contacted him after his marriage. he came to me and contacted me. i never talked to him regulary otherwise i could have married him. who is stopping me? there r millions of girl who get married wid already married guy having wife ok but im not one of them. yes i met him once and that was my mistake and i accepted it. im a human not an angel. i loved him n feelings are still here. any way he has many girls around him except me and his wife with whom he talks. we talked like once in a week. so how can i be responsible of anything? u dont even know and blaming me. agar woh itn hi acha hota k meri waja se apni responsibilities chor deta tou kia mujhse pehle hi shadi na kr leta? ya mein yahan post kr rhi hoti? u can read my post i wrote i got disturbed n my heart beats fast when i get any proposal plx advice me what should i do n how should i move on? where the hell i wrote what i talk to him regularly n gonna marry him soon?
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OP,
This guy feels no shame in using you for your money, in ditching his wife, and in hurting his wife and her family and his own parents. But at least the guy cared about his own security and well- being though it was at the expense of others.
The strange and sad thing is that you had even lesser sharam/shame compared to him as you willingly allowed him to use you and treat you like dirt.
Put yourself first; you've done the right thing in cutting him out of your life and now don't open that door again. Life is short to begin with and people like you "ex" make it shorter. Instead use your precious time for the people in your life that sincerely love you and for bettering yourself.
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Patakha Guddi,
This guy feels no shame in using you for your money, in ditching his wife, and in hurting his wife and her family and his own parents.
The strange and sad thing is that YOU have even lesser sharam/shame compared to him as you willingly allow him to use you and your family and treat you like dirt.
At least the guy cares about his own well-being and security; he is at least looking out for himself though it's at the expense of others. But, you on the other hand, don't care at all about your own izzat or security or well-being....nor that of your family's if you're willing to subject them to this gem of a guy.
So, think about these points. And if they make you squirm or feel uneasy or embarrassed, then take that as an inner sign to ditch the guy and move on with your life.
you are so right :( in shaa ALLAH i will move on now ..