The greatest attraction between two people of the opposite sex is love. It is after discovering the nuances and getting to know the other person, discover things about them that make a relationship exciting and challenging.
In a love marriage, all of that takes place before the couple even comes under a relationship, as a result, the marriage turns out to be nothing more than a formality to fulfil in the eyes of society. The charm and charisma of discovering the other person is lost.
Obviously, in a love marriage, instances of courtships of an individual happen with various people. You don’t like him, move on to another, don’t like him, move on to another and so on and so on until there comes a time when the heart becomes hardened and love ceases to exist and the only thing a person seeks is compatibility. The standards and expectations of a person are raised so much, that in search of a ‘perfect’ spouse, the person abandons hope.
Also, there is the serious matter of jealousy to consider. How would you know if the person you courted and married is not still interested in a person that he or she courted before you? How do you know that you will not regret marrying someone you had met in your prior courtships and as a result deprive the person you are married with of love and attention in your reminiscing of a better partner you left in search of an even better one?
And then, due to this scenario, doubt creeps in into a relationship, with the other person not knowing if she or he still converses or is interested in a prior relationship. One would feel as if being cheated upon, and as a result of this doubt sets in, the love that was once there, slowly subsides and the only thing left between two people is doubt whether you married the right person.
As in an arranged marriage, where one partner slowly discovers the person that is his or her spouse, that journey of discovering each other’s soul is gone and vanished, because everything was discovered. What else is left?
Marriage, which is a communion of souls, just becomes something dreary because the communion has already taken place, as a result, marriage loses its charm.
There is no spark in love marriages. In arranged marriages, you know, that a person destined for you, knows only you and you know that person, as a result, the emotions shared and exchanged are unique to no one except the couple who have taken the journey of love for the first time together.
he isnt young nor single
i was just about to send my parents over to Lajawabs hous:(
