One thing arranged marriage does is to take all the excitement and buzz out of love and romance. By enabling men to take advantage of its comforting rituals and certainties, it allows them to get away with laziness and timidity. Normally, men should do their best to win women’s hearts by working hard, being bold, and looking after them.
The problem with arranged marriage is that with the guarantee of a mate there’s no need for a flabby couch-potato to get up and make himself attractive (and vice versa, although it usually benefits men).
It’s also very unflattering to women. Men should have to SEEK women by courting them. That’s what romance is all about! Women want to be chased by a number of men, and no pleasure is more sublime for a woman that to have a number of men fight with each other for her hand. With arranged marriage, the spontaneity and gracefulness of seduction and romance disappears; it becomes a contrived affair managed by parents and other older people.
Seduction is all about suggestion and indirection, i.e. never revealing your plans and intentions. That is why it’s exciting for the woman who is being seduced. In arranged marriage on the other hand, the woman knows that the man is there for marriage: this knowledge on her part drains the exercise of all pleasure. Woe unto those who give up the excitement and challenge of romance for the banal comforts of parent-arranged nuptials!
but you know who they are and what will it be like, in arrange marriage you dont know what you gonna get. what if you hate the other persons personality etc. what you gonna do get a divorce. you should always have some say in your future, i’m not a believer in divorce etc. i rather have an open relationship. where both parties can do what they want and be happy.
That actually makes the whole marriage thing more exciting. It would be extremely boring if u already knew every single thing about that person.
Its not like ur parent are gonna make u get married to the guy forcefully. They are offcourse gonna ask for ur opinion too. So before marriage, in arrange marriages u have plenty of time to check out his/her personality.
It depend on the attitude you take into the marriage. If you go in thinking that since the other person's already signed the nikkahnama then you don't need to put any effort into the relationship, then you're setting up for a disaster.
If on the other hand, you go in committed to putting in a lot of effort and wooing and impressing your spouse and winning them over and getting them to love you after they've signed the nikkahnana, then you're setting up for a much more happy situation.
Arrange karo baba.. Aleast if it didn't work out.. u can blame ur parents for it (toba toba)...
On serious note. Arrange marriage say family bee khush aur tum be khush.. Compromise honee chayay...
