Delaying having kids after marriage for few years?

PakWoman · March 18, 2011, 5:23pm

Re: Delaying having kids after marriage for few years?

Abortion is allowed in Islam uptill 30 days ^

Are you serious? According to this logic there will be no divorces then right?

Consider:

a) Couple. Marry. Don’t have kids for a year. Spend that time adapting to each other, each others’ families, knowing each other, getting used to each other. Without kids or distractions. Easier.

b) Couples. Marry, have kids wihtin a year, then divorce. Not only they manage to ruin their life but also their children’s.

Waiting is common sense.

Children should come in the equation when:

a) couples are mentally ready to go towards that HUGE step of taking care of another living thing and;

b) when they are in a good financial state to provide their baby(ies) with the **best **life they can.

Straight forward really, but another concept desis have managed to corrupt and confuse.

This again is different for different people and applicable according to the situation a couple is in. For me a lot of this needs to be taken care of before the marriage. Once you’ve decided to marry someone, than you have to give it your all to make it work IMO. Again you can choose to differ.