Re: Delaying having kids after marriage for few years?
Please save the religion-bashing lecture. Well then I am sorry, I will have to spew that verse at you again. And it’s not a tasbeeh… it’s the word of Allah quite relevant in context to the topic being discussed. If Allah has ordained that a soul will not get his due rizq, then you can do all the planning you want and nothing will change that, vice versa.
***“And kill not your children for fear of poverty. We shall provide for them as well as for you. Surely, the killing of them is a great sin” ***(al-Isra 31)
As far as the permanent methods are concerned, all scholars agree that those are haram… the physiology of the body should not be changed (except if it is a life-threatening situation for the mother).
And concerning temporary methods, there is a division since some Islamic scholars even consider most of these as haram since contraception methods like copper t are also a form of a very early abortion.
The one’s who say it’s allowed, also add that there should be a valid reason for opting for such methods.
So for me, delaying children to see if the marriage works out or not does not seem like a valid reason. What guarantee do I have that when I do have kids, the marriage wont break down after that…