Re: Delaying having kids after marriage for few years?
I don’t think anyone’s talking about abortion here (yes i said the A word). What they are saying is that, let’s be proactive about not having a kid in the first place. Because let’s face it, by the time people get married in our culture, they’re so horny that they are bound to do something as soon as the molvi says “mubarak ho, now bring on my halwa”. Now nothing wrong with consummating the marriage, I mean that’s half of the story anyways. But…traditionally, no one knows their spouse before getting married. And because of that, there are so many things hidden, that can only come out after getting married. This included obnoxious habits like leaving the wet towel on the floor, to the in-laws being abusive or whatever. If you bring in the child into this situation, then you’re messing with 3 or more lives. If things do come to a point where a divorce happens, the most affected IMO is the child, not the parents. Parents can deal but the children are most affected.
So, to prevent that kind of situation, nothing wrong with using contraceptives, whatever you choose.
I wasn’t talking about abortion either. I was in fact talking about using contraceptives and family planning etc. Well since the OP asked whether you would want to delay kids - I simply gave my personal opinion on that. I hold this view based on religious beliefs. You can choose to disagree.