Re: Defeating Hinduana Jahiliyaat from "muslim" minds
Why not? What are you afraid of? Are you paranoid? Low self esteem? Feel you won't get same/enough attention?
Re: Defeating Hinduana Jahiliyaat from "muslim" minds
I'm not convinced that polygamy is allowed for all Muslims.
Re: Defeating Hinduana Jahiliyaat from "muslim" minds
True Sahar, some aren't even worthy of a single wife.
Polygamy is permitted not obligatory, yet some guys behave like thats all Islam is about. All cases of polygamy that I have seen the additional marriages have taken place due to the man's lust and desire and hardly ever for reasons that islam permits it for.
I think not having a say in your husbands second marriage, having to deal with it whether you like it or not, fear, insecurity, dependency upon the husband...these were 'backward' attitudes which no longer bind women.
Re: Defeating Hinduana Jahiliyaat from "muslim" minds
I think that attitude is more jahil and paindu than anything else :)
Re: Defeating Hinduana Jahiliyaat from "muslim" minds
i'll never understand why it bothers some people SO damn much what the preferences of others are. because in a reverse situation such people are the very people crying "oh woe!...stop discriminating against us based on how we choose to dress, how many wives we choose to marry etc etc"
somebody out there cannot understand your polygamous nature. and u might not understand their point of view. just get on with your life, find a woman who will not mind such a situation and make like-minded friends and your life will be hunky-dory.
now in case u are trying to understand why people who think differently than you think the way they do, you need to
(a) open up your mind and
(b) have a healthy discussion with them without resorting to attacks like "are u paranoid?" "do u have low self esteem...do u want attention?"
Re: Defeating Hinduana Jahiliyaat from "muslim" minds
why do people assume that sharing a husband is a bad thing.
we are going on and on about it is a jaahil hinduistic etc thing.
but it clearly states that you should only marry more than once if you are able to treat each wife equally.
so if a man is able to do that and the wives are open minded and have no problem with this issue then why harp on and on about it.
the main point that i got is yes the author of this thread is correct in saying that you need to be open minded about this kind of thing, you cant have a closed up view of your own religion.
Re: Defeating Hinduana Jahiliyaat from "muslim" minds
^^ maybe the author of this thread also needs to have an open mind in accepting that some people may not want to engage in polygamous marriages and maybe he should respect their pov. It's not about having a closed mind. As others have stated above, I believe there are certain situations/conditions that call for polygamous marriages for the benefit of women. I'm not convinced that marrying out of lust qualifies. Furthermore, it is not required in Islam that one do so. . . so I see no reason why people can't have their own preferences. If they want to engage in it, I am no one to stop them nor would I even care. If they don't, that's their choice as well.
Like shweetz said, find a girl who is happy with such a situation and marry her.
Re: Defeating Hinduana Jahiliyaat from “muslim” minds
First, I don’t think the Quranic verse says that you “should” marry more than one woman if you can treat them equally, but that you can. And then the Quranic verse seems to go on to imply that humans are not capable of treating them equally.
And I think you are misinterpreting the original poster’s meaning – he seems to be pro polygamy.
Re: Defeating Hinduana Jahiliyaat from “muslim” minds
Oh please, I just think he wants to see girls get riled up on the subject. 
Pro-polygamy men are usually all talk, or rich saudis.
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Why r sum of u ladies against multiple wives, we r allowed, Allah swt has said that, all muslim scholars agree, and you have also failed to see that in majority of areas that there r more women than men, now you can see one of the reasons why we r allowed, if marriage wasn't seen as you know old-fashioned, some women would not be able to get married, it's divine wisdom your questioning, so maybe you should rethink it, but I also have to say I'm not pro-polygamy.
Re: Defeating Hinduana Jahiliyaat from "muslim" minds
better Q is why men get so pissed off that some random women don't like the idea of being someone's 2-3-4th wife?
It's simple really, you like it, do it/find someone willing to..if u don't then find someone with same thinking..
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If you want to understand, consider how you would feel if a woman requested the same of you. I don't think most male egos could handle it.
This attempt to categorize and separate based on large generalizations is futile. It really shouldn't be that hard to understand.
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I get pissed when women who don't like it get all riled up when sum1 talks about multiple wives...muslim men r allowed to, You don't like it fine, y insult them for defending it, or even practicing it...Allah swt has allowed it, so y question it.
Re: Defeating Hinduana Jahiliyaat from "muslim" minds
Y insult women for not wanting it?
Re: Defeating Hinduana Jahiliyaat from "muslim" minds
Who's insulting who?
You don't like it fine, you don't have to, I'm just saying don't insult the practice, and the people who practice, I mean it IS allowed by Allah swt you know.
Re: Defeating Hinduana Jahiliyaat from “muslim” minds
Did you read the initial and subsequent posts by teh author of this thread? Calling women who dont want to share paranoid and have low self esteem? That they’ve jahil hindu thinking? Unless u dun consider those insults 
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Afridi,
Much of what the original poster said is insulting. As is the claim that it is incomprehensible that some women would feel uncomfortable with the idea of polygamy. It's really not that difficult to understand why women would not be okay with it, regardless of whether or not it's allowed.
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Alrighty, I guess this happens when you don't read the initial post, still you ladies shud refrain from stooping to the original posters level. I mean that's what he was aiming for wasn't he.
Re: Defeating Hinduana Jahiliyaat from "muslim" minds
^ Who stooped?
Re: Defeating Hinduana Jahiliyaat from "muslim" minds
I dont' see anybody insulting him. In fact, most fo the girls here have given perfectly rational replies but he still went into more insults, calling them insecure or paranoid etc.