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@PunjabiRose

It’s never good to be too extreme… and this seems extreme to me. The chance of a 14 yr old girl marrying a 14, 15, or even 16 year old guy is pretty slim too… especially in the US. I doubt anyone is willing to get their son married off while he is still a kid himself and chilling in high school (or even junior high). So that means she will be marrying a guy who is quite a bit older than her… And I guess just growing up in America that disturbs me. This mom seems like the type that will not care how old the guy is since her main concern is to get her daughter married off at 14. And in my opinion, any guy who is willing to marry a 14 year old even tho he is in his 20s or even 30’s ..raises pedophile concerns with me. A 14 yr old is still a CHILD… for a guy to be ok to “treat” her as a wife… ugh… very disturbing for me personally. 14 yr old = 8th grader. Thats so young Think about what you were doing when you were in 8th grade. :hinna: I personally was still enjoying my “childhood”.

I know a girl that got married at 14 and it did not end well at . The marriage was not a happy one and ended almost 9 yrs later… when she was 23 yrs and she herself took a strong stand and stood up for herself and what she wanted. At 14 you go along with whatever your parents want for you… one can’t even fully comprehend whats going on and going against it (because you are a kid). But the older you get and live in the “duniya” … the comprehension sets in… as it did with this girl I know.

Bit weird but I have heard that are some desi Muslims in the UK who get their kids nikahs done under 16 so that any ‘stuff’ they get upto with their ‘husband’/‘wife’ is halal then when they’re old enough they have their official wedding.. Obviously has no legal recognition tho.. Pretty common amongst gypsies as well apparently.. A very sick and extreme case of underage marriage being encouraged by desi families, the boy’s parents and the girl’s dad gave the go-ahead for him to marry and have sex with his 12yr-old cousin but her mum went to the police when she found out Father jailed for encouraging his teenage son to rape and marry his cousin, 12 | Mail Online