ladies.. if u were married with kids and ur hubby decided to move back to hmm pakistani/india.. would u move back or would u stay where u r and bring up ur kids on ur own?
wats ur priority.. going with the hubby or giving ur kids an education (assuming this is ur reason for staying)?
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ladies.. if u were married with kids and ur hubby decided to move back to hmm pakistani/india.. would u move back or would u stay where u r and bring up ur kids on ur own?
wats ur priority.. going with the hubby or giving ur kids an education (assuming this is ur reason for staying)?
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what hubby says is best :)
i wud move back to pakistan anyday because my whole family is there and you know what ... education and priorities can be found anywhere :) ... because look at the kids in pakistan ... they are doctors, engieers, teachers, etc. etc. and they are all living great :) so doesn't matter where i go as long as my hubby and kids are with me ... i will adjust anywhere
well depends, if we can afford a quality education in pakistan, then why not? To me, the whole idea of a family is to be together..wats the point of a husband u cant even see?? the one person u can trust with everything, rely on him for everything, isnt there for u..but if it was like he wanted to settle into a gaon or something where the rest of my kids life would be affected n we wouldnt be able to give em a good education then def stay here
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what hubby says is best :)
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Tell me you are joking
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Tell me you are joking
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she isnt...it proves she doesnt have a man yet :p
MSL.. is that the only reason why u would move back to pakistan? what hubby says goes?
Tikhi.. i agree with u.. if you can afford good education in pakistan for ur kids, then why not move back...
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MSL.. is that the only reason why u would move back to pakistan? what hubby says goes?
Tikhi.. i agree with u.. if you can afford good education in pakistan for ur kids, then why not move back...
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no yar ... my point is education and good up-bringing to pakistan mein bhee mil sakti hai na :) ... and like thiki said the whole point of a family is being together
I don't mind moving over seas. I mean I'm not going to Nigeria or anything. But, sure why not!
If moving out with kids, it depends on how much it will affect my kids education if they are in their elementary schooling then why not. But, somwhere down in middle or high then NO. But, We would figure something out I'm sure.
Yar sadzz I really don't know. Jubh aissa waqt ayya tu dekhey ghey. Haalat purr depend kurta hain.
god save us all from such whimsical characters.
Really, the hubby if sane will always give a deep thought to what his wife and kids want. I for one would take my decision based on his reasons for wanting to move there. If it's not compelling enough, my answer would always be no.
^ exactly.. its a pretty tough decision
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I for one would take my decision based on his reasons for wanting to move there.
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lets say the reasoning was that he had a really good business there and was making loads of money.. enuff to be sending back for his chidlrens eduaction, loans, etc?
if he had a good business there, then what was he doing here in US in the first place? And no! Family business really does not count as his business.
^ aussie u silly
its just a scenario.. people have different priorities
hmmm, maybe I would think about it then, if there are good enough schools for the kids and I have job opportunities too, then it will be okay by me. But he has gotta have a stronger reason to really seal the deal..like the business will crash without him and we might be liable for the loans or something.
^ true
i just wonder sometimes what goes thru peoples minds when they do make these life changing decisions.. do they ever think to themselves if they could go back and change their decision, they would?
hmmm
Chandbeti is just itching to say that her (future hypothetical) husband will be a buffoon and moron rolled into one and she will rub his sorry face into mud at every possible opportunity. And that is why she will not marry at all, to save that one person a lifetime of agony and misery.
people don't have to be buffoons to make foolish decisions faisal, like you decided to pick on me..picking on kids ain't all that wise a decision now is it?
And why do i sense hostility on your part? coz once I battled it out against grown men like you on the issue of husbands or whatever?
looks like CB's initial points touched a raw nerve on Faisal bao. :D
Oh oh… getting so defensive now. Aray baba, you don’t have to declare yourself a ‘kid’ to get out of this. 
Anyway, I don’t think you are a kid. You just have a ton of opinions on stuff that you have never experienced. And that is fine. You typically start off with a valid opinion on something, but as discussion goes on, you just start getting venomous and repetitive.
And no, in that working wives discussion, I never countered you as such, because you admitted you are neither married nor likely to get married anytime soon, so I deemed it a waste of time to argue with you. It was amusing reading your opinions and how you were attacking the poor guy (I think it was Aejaz). Same here. Carry on. 
I actually know someone who moved his family to Pak, but is living here in the US so he can pay off his loans etc. His family was not very happy with the decision but they have come to terms with it. He visits them twice a year or so. From my POV, the point of a family is to be together. It doesn't make sense that the father is living in one country and the mother in another raising the kids.
Also a few other people I know have moved back to Pak because their whole family is there so after 4-5 years, they decided to move back. Also post 9-11 a lot of people have decided to move back rather than put up with the discrimination that they have faced.
If my husband and I find a great job in Pak and we can provide for the family then if credible reasons are there to move yeah I'll think it over :) It would have to happen in the early years of schooling though. Because after the kids reach the age of 6-7, they don't want to go back to Pakistan and that's totally understandable :)