decisions for a wife..

[system]

those living with their mummy daddy when they should be out of the house, deserve to be sent back to the friggin country they came from.

Chew on ^ that chuckleheads!!!

[ch_and-be_ii]

*Originally posted by Faisal: *
Oh oh… getting so defensive now. Aray baba, you don’t have to declare yourself a ‘kid’ to get out of this.

Anyway, I don’t think you are a kid. You just have a ton of opinions on stuff that you have never experienced. And that is fine. You typically start off with a valid opinion on something, but as discussion goes on, you just start getting venomous and repetitive.

And no, in that working wives discussion, I never countered you as such, because you admitted you are neither married nor likely to get married anytime soon, so I deemed it a waste of time to argue with you. It was amusing reading your opinions and how you were attacking the poor guy (I think it was Aejaz). Same here. Carry on.

I wasn’t attacking the poor man who thought he helped his wife enough. He kept falling into my traps :-p. And whom did I attack in this thread? It was a calm discussion or so I think.

And hell yeah I am a kid..

[Nilu]

Hmmm difficult for me coz i was born en raise in
Holland,Acctually i think i can live there just for
vacation is ok but live there no.
I can leave my mom and other familys that i have.
And if ive kids and they are here in Holland in school
then i think i will stay here in Holland.
But i dont know yaar it is very difficult.

[system]

even though me not girl

but lets say if this thing is going on in the life of somefamily that i know and they are asking for help to make the decision

MY first question will be

Why did Hubby came to Aus/US/anywhere outside Pakistan in first place.??

[system]

^ maybe he'd been there for years studying/working and now had an opportunity to go back and start something fresh ?

[skhan]

Well if it was a mutual decision between the husband and wife then I don't see the issue. If it wasn't, well if he is the breadwinner then take it or leave it.

[system]

Although this question was probably directed towards wives, but as a husband I'll just say one shouldnt decide what he wants to do without consulting his wife. and if they both mutually agree on something, thats always the best decision.

[system]

[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by sadzzz: *
^ maybe he'd been there for years studying/working and now had an opportunity to go back and start something fresh ?
[/QUOTE]

Sometimes fresh start is always not the best option and even though the relatives initially tell you to come back and they will help you setling down, after few weeks they get tired of you.

If he wants to move back only because he got daughters who are growing up and is affraid of westen culture , than he need some counselling for sure.

If he initially came here for work/ citizen ship and good $$$, then he will have to compromise on alot of things

but what ever the case may be its some thing that should be mutually disscussed between husband and wife,

May be best option that husband should go back for few months and see how the thing are turning around and then call rest of the family.

Personal experience: One of my Aunts in England decided to move back after 25 years and married kids, so the son was sent back to pakistan first to start some business and stuff , he is in pakistan for last 3 years now and havent done a single thing changing jobs and professions. everything but not settled.

So make sure they do all calculation first and then go because this decesion will affect alot of lifes.

[system]

thanks kewls :k:

i know 2-3 families who have done that… in some cases it has worked and in others its left families all broken up.. it really isnt good for the kids, regardless of their age

[system]

^^^ yup i agree sadzzz,

specailly if you are bieng brought up outside pakistan or moved abroad,

with in few years you get used to a very different life style. specailly to the concept that you have all rights that you never had in pakistan and thats why you live pretty easy life here.

[Muslim_Queen]

Re: decisions for a wife..

[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by sadzzz: *
ladies.. if u were married with kids and ur hubby decided to move back to hmm pakistani/india.. would u move back or would u stay where u r and bring up ur kids on ur own?

wats ur priority.. going with the hubby or giving ur kids an education (assuming this is ur reason for staying)?
[/QUOTE]

I would go because the education there is good in some schools.Or I could teach them myself.However, I would bring them back here for post secondary education.

[blushing_vision]

I would expect my husband 2 take me n the along everywhere he goes...