Notorious yes I agree, unequal treatment is branndished out by society. This transcends cultures, in the West if a man sleeps around he’s a Casanova whilst a women is regarded as a whore.
Unjust treatment maybe due to the fact that women are more likely to be exploited (e.g. physical weakness) or suffer the consequences (e.g. pregnancy) making it necessary for societies to create taboos for the protection (or as I perceive the suppression) of women.
Furthermore sex is a natural healthy part of a relationship. A high sex drive in either sex is perhaps frowned upon because it leads to insecurity.
Widening the debate. Sex should be discussed with close confidents who can dispense personalised advice (you’re close friends or relatives, primary care practioner or the local aalim/aalima).
Islamically our parents should teach us once we reach maturity but unfortunately with all my peers it’s more about exploration and experimentation rather than education.
I know Asian females have poor breast cancer survival rates due to late diagnosis and high proportion of Asian men who are impotent (diabetes etc) refuse to seek help. They rather sweep such issues under the carpet.
Myself included, I am afraid we resort to inappropriate discussions. Such as sharing our private intimate moments, the exchange of cheap sexual innuendoes and the use of vulgar language when trading insults rather than having mature productive deliberations. Quite perverse.