That thread is for fun sake, right? I mean people aren’t taking it seriously, right? 
I am just concerned 
Is there a problem or do you like seeing your threads moved to Cafe?
Why would you move this thread to cafe? The thread which the question is about is in this forum, hence this topic was opened in this forum, ok? And which other thread of mine have been moved to cafe and I liked seeing it happen, care to tell me?
I have nothing against Sobi, I don't even know her but here's my concern: Be it sobi, you, or me myself, are we professionals here trying to give advices. If some advice will be posted, don't you think everyone should be able to give their views about it?
The last question in that thread: The person who asked the qustion, his name is "Lewis" and I am pretty sure it's a made up name for the sake of privacy. He may be a non-Muslim because there are a lot of Christians or people of other faiths living in Pakistan who speak urdu. But I am assuming he's a Muslim since the majority of this board is Muslims. So he's in love with this athiest and he's being encouraged to marry her the way she is? Ok ok, it's a modern world and times have changed and she did mention that he should spend some time with her and try to get to know her better but no where with that did she mention that after he spends some time with her and gains her trust, he should try to convert her THEN AS WELL. Talking about guys, yes they can marry a girl without converting her to Islam but I thought that was limited to Christians only.........
Please don't tell me this is life forum and religion should not be discussed here because religion automatically comes in when you talk about marriage.
Shikra man why worry.
We all know Lewis is gonna have his fun with this girl and then go back to Pakistan and give his parents what he owes, a good 'bahu'.
Do you really think hes going to take that kind of lame advice seriously.
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*Originally posted by M: *
Shikra man why worry.
We all know Lewis is gonna have his fun with this girl and then go back to Pakistan and give his parents what he owes, a good 'bahu'.
Do you really think hes going to take that kind of lame advice seriously.
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No wonder he never came to you for advice.
Well that's just your opinion isn't it? As for me, I found that to be a pretty well-thought-out sound advice. If you have a problem with it ( assuming you are genuinely concerned about Lewis's well being), feel free to PM the mods. On the other hand, if you've already made up your mind that he is not worth your time, then stop patronizing someone who's actually trying. That's lame if you ask me.
Shikra ,rarely do people actually use advice that they are given online or in some other advice column .So dont worry about it!
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Shikra ,rarely do people actually *use advice that they are given online or in some other advice column .So dont worry about it!
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is that why you keep posting here all the time dq? :p
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is that why you keep posting here all the time dq? :p
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2Bad theres no harm in giving advice.Lets just say that people dont always use the advice of strangers. They might, but its rare. And since when did I post here 'all' the time? I cant help commenting.
I agree with shikraa bhai actually :)
he has a point
if for example SS gives some advice it will be from her point of few. :)
and if others can reply aswell :) more points of fews can be checked
but if no one can reply or gove their 2 cents, why doesn t she PM him/her back with what she thinks about it?
whats the purpose of posting it here? :)
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I agree with shikraa bhai actually :)
he has a point
if for example SS gives some advice it will be from her point of few. :)
and if others can reply aswell :) more points of fews can be checked
but if no one can reply or gove their 2 cents, why doesn t she PM him/her back with what she thinks about it?
whats the purpose of posting it here? :)
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well there are two options here.
One, it can be open for discussion, like we have in all other cases, except the identity of the person will remain a secret.
Two, keeping it the way it is. That is, it stays as a purely a Dear Auntie Sobi/Shahreen thread, where the person is only interested in their advice. By posting it here, the mods are just sharing the information? It's like saying, this is what our advice would be if faced with such a problem. As long as the person seeking advice and the rest of the guppies are aware of it, I don't see any problem.
And if the purpose of this thread is to change the format, then this thread belongs in feedback.
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if the person just wants advice from them, why not PM it BACK to the one who asked the q. :)
I really don t see the puspose of posting it here :) where no one can give their opinion
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if the person just wants advice from them, why not PM it BACK to the one who asked the q. :)
I really don t see the puspose of posting it here :) where no one can give their opinion
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so that we can ponder over it? have a good discussion with fellow guppies in digi?:p and hey, maybe we can even learn from his/her experience, you never know.
Besides, it's a good thread to read, no?
Yaar,it's like one of those columns in relationship magazines, it's just a concept. You can very well question its effectiveness. That doesn't mean there's something wrong with it.
dutch_paki, i think its a good idea to post the issues on a public forum, even if the situation and the problem is fake
who knows, there may be someone out there who does really need the advice
sure a lot of us may not care too hoots bout the advice given on the net, but then again some may :k:
2good, Dutch is getting what I am saying. If that person is asking specifically ONE person's advice, he/she can PM that one person and then the advisor can pm him/her back. What's the point of posting only one person's view? Only just because you can and stick it on the top? If it has to be posted here in the thread, then let others reply as well and add their 2 cents to it. Otherwise, it'll be a very limited solution and represent only one person's (advisor's) views and will have only what ONE person thinks. And every person's opinion varies. We are no professionals here who got PHDs in advising.
If you ask me is it ok to go have sex tonight? It may be ok for me and I may tell you to go ahead. On the other hand if I am very religious, I may tell you No, it's not permitted before marriage and one shouldn't have sex before marriage.
And I understand the point that MQ has mentioned: People rarely follow the advice but then again: what's the point of asking and what's the point of posting one person's views?
Anyway, I am getting a kick out of it. I don't care, it's funny for me.
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If you ask me is it ok to go have sex tonight? It may be ok for me and I may tell you to go ahead. On the other hand if I am very religious, I may tell you No, it's not permitted before marriage and one shouldn't have sex before marriage.
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but shikra, thats not advice.. thats more like making a decision for someone
b/w following someones advice is dependant on each individual.. if u ask someone for help but dont follow their advice, thats like wasting someone’s time.. why bother them to begin with?
to follow or not, the point is, somenoe is posting their problem to get an opinion.. at the end of the day, u gotta use ur brain to resolve the issue 
What I mean, what If I and/or (several) others think SS gave advice but not good or complete 
What will I do? I will have to PM SS and ask her to change or to add stuff? I can t give MY or OUR opinion about it
I agree, posting issues is good, for it might help some one. But why only one persons opinion? SS herself is still a kid, and Shahreen is … well she can give some good advice I m sure. 
Maybe it would be better to create a new GS mod with new nick like: UNNAMED GUPPY. everyone with his/her problem can pm that mod and it will be posted herea nonymous? every one will be able to give their wo cents.
Shikra bhai? great minds think alike 
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but shikra, thats not advice.. thats more like making a decision for someone
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I just wrote down whatever came to my mind. But I think my point was clear. The point is: If you ask me a question, my reply/solution/approach to that question may varyfrom someone else. Agree? We all make mistakes and no one is an expert on giving advices. So if you limit the reply to one person, that advisor may be on a wrong track and may miss a point while giving advice. However, if the reply is open for evenone on the other hand, and since people think differently, someone else may come up with some point that the "advisor" forgot to cover and it may benefit the person asking the question. Yes we can PM the person and try to get our point across but I may say that other people may also benefit from that point. So PMing my point to the person asking the question wouldn't help other people because they'll miss it and I don't think a lot of people will bother to PM individuals.
Edit Sadz, in reply to your second post below the one where you quoted me: You are right. If that person is asking for just an opinion, why not give him the variety of other people's opinions as well? :)
^ dutch_paki, do u have an issue with the person giving advice or not being able to contribute to the advice?
the person wanting the advice is most welcome to open a thread themselves right? like what most of us do... maybe they really did want just the one persons advice.. its upto them right not the mod?
shikra, that really is upto the person who wants the advice isnt it? if they want several opinions or one.. its entirely their choice.. nopes?