In our culture I feel like it’s not accepted to deal with your dark emotions and you’re forced to put them away in a small imaginary box and never open it. But how long can you really keep doing that?
When things keep piling up for years on top of each other, how can you tell yourself that everything is okay since that imaginary box doesn’t really have infinite amount of space, or does it?
And is getting closer to your religion really all that practical in solving real life problems?
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not sure what you mean by dark emotions. like anger or depression?
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We have Life1 for that. You do not have to use a imaginary box to hold your dark side back. You can spill the beans in Life1 . :D
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Anything done to you by another individual (s) which effected you in a negative manner.
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Anything done to you by another individual (s) which effected you in a negative manner.
so is it about revenge?
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Anything done to you by another individual (s) which effected you in a negative manner.
Are you talking about childhood traumas Or evils of ILS ?
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Getting closer to religion definitely give me soothing relief.
Secondly, religion do tell us how to deal with different situations and even more intensely it tells us how to avoid those situations. Unfortunately we (including myself) have started looking towards religion as cure tool and not prevention tool.
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Yes. :k:
Religion is cure , treatment and preventive tool , all in one . It is swiss army knife for dealing with life problems.
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Mirch/Hareem- Yes, I'm referring to childhood traumas but everything else which happens even after you grow up is related to that.
D6C- I guess I haven't tried hard enough to achieve positive results by depending on religion. At the time I could have never avoided the situations, and even now I can't really avoid but there has to be a much better way of deal with the after effects then just crying about it and moving on. you know?
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BATMANNNNN
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^ I was waiting for that :)
But I don't want to take revenge, since Allah's punishment will be much better ( I sound a little crazy, I know), but its getting to the point where I can't keep it in any more. So I need an alternative with dealing with my emotions. To get some peace without harming anyone. Does this make sense?
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human beings have the ability to develop intense mental strength to deal with all those dark emotions. I kind of understand what you're talking about. these traumatic things have happened, we don't know how to deal with them just then so they have to be locked away in that little box just until better days come and we're not so emotionally messed up at which point we're better equipped to open that box full of dark emotions and look at it with a clearer more objective mind.
would it better to open that box and deal with those emotions right then.....not sure about that myself since i'm going through something similar
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Well since I have batman out of my system, lemme give u an actual advice. The way I deal with things is that you channel your energy to make sure it doesn't happen to anyone else and try to guard the people around you and if you know someone who went through this then you try to help them as much as you can so they don't suffer the way you did.
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^are you talking about emotional intelligence? a counselor friend of mine had once told me about that. never tried it but he had said it can be a very powerful tool in the way we look at our emotions and how we channel them
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^are you talking about emotional intelligence? a counselor friend of mine had once told me about that. never tried it but he had said it can be a very powerful tool in the way we look at our emotions and how we channel them
didn't know there was a fancy word for it but I guess thats the only productive way of dealing with the emotions
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In our culture I feel like it's not accepted to deal with your dark emotions and you're forced to put them away in a small imaginary box and never open it. But how long can you really keep doing that?
When things keep piling up for years on top of each other, how can you tell yourself that everything is okay since that imaginary box doesn't really have infinite amount of space, or does it?
And is getting closer to your religion really all that practical in solving real life problems?
Things not get broken is very important. Provided nothing is simulating bad emotion frequently, moving on helps a lot.
If you leave things in dark box, after a long time you have better perspective on them.
Moving along with life in healthy way is very important. That also is the biggest miracle of religion It helps you do that.
My child....
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This is very true. Desis have a tough time recognizing that psychological problems or deep rooted resentment etc may be present. There are so many issues such as childhood molestation, being ragged and bullied or even physical abuse/beatings that are not recognized as big deals.
Whatever the topic you are referring to, how about you talk to a counselor of the same cultural background? Or a trusted friend or family member (who you know is more open-minded about these things)?
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open pandora's box, close it, open it, open, close, open, close tam tam.. my stupid dark-side is that i can't forgive. jeez!
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***Keeping it in is not healthy.........talking things out helps !
It does not need to be with family , sometimes a good , trustworthy friend can be a great help , because you need to get all the anger and hatred out of your system and you need a person to listen and not judge you !***