Dealing with your dark side

[libranrulz]

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@sheyn

***Keeping it in is not healthy.........talking things out helps !

It does not need to be with family , sometimes a good , trustworthy friend can be a great help , because you need to get all the anger and hatred out of your system and you need a person to listen and not judge you !***

Sheyn doesn't deal with the dark side ... the dark side deals with her :|

[sheyn]

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**Sheyn has friends on the dark side.........U have been warned ! **

[Nisha25]

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talking it out is not that easy though, it has to be someone that might have gone through something similar.

sometimes people who've never experienced that pain of whatever type might not understand what you might be going through or they couldn't even imagine it.

like sheyn said somebody that won't judge you or make you feel even worse about it b/c they would've handled it better or differently. but talking it out will help. if there's too much emotional crap packed in the mind though it's sometimes hard to organize the thoughts and think about it clearly.

[Monk]

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@sheyn

**Sheyn has friends on the dark side.........U have been warned ! **

Sheyn!!!!!

I though we were going to keep it secret.

[Sara516]

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Is it possible to seek therapy or talk to a psychologist/counselor?

Sometimes you need to talk things out with a person and if it's possible, try to confront the person who hurt you in your past?

[Gaia]

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@libranrulz

Well since I have batman out of my system, lemme give u an actual advice. The way I deal with things is that you channel your energy to make sure it doesn’t happen to anyone else and try to guard the people around you and if you know someone who went through this then you try to help them as much as you can so they don’t suffer the way you did.

I so agree and this is one thing which always makes me feel so much  better. There is nothing better then helping someone take a positive  step after a negative phase in their life. 

@princessjojo

Whatever the topic you are referring to, how about you talk to a counselor of the same cultural background? Or a trusted friend or family member (who you know is more open-minded about these things)?

@Sara516

Is it possible to seek therapy or talk to a psychologist/counselor?
Sometimes you need to talk things out with a person and if it’s possible, try to confront the person who hurt you in your past?

So, many years ago I tried a psychologist, BIG mistake. First off he did some hypnosis crap on me ( :halo: really you weirdoo??). And second, he’s like, “you’re a very troubled child,” again why would you say that to a teenager who’s already freaking out about her life! So I just never went back or looked into psychologists.

Sara- I can’t confront, because “its” entire life will be exposed and a lot of relationships will be broken. And I’m not in the position to have such weight on my shoulders. Plus I feel like I’m taking something big into my own hands which should only be done by ALLAH. But confronting is something which goes through my head almost everyday, so I donno.

@sheyn

Keeping it in is not healthy…talking things out helps !
It does not need to be with family , sometimes a good , trustworthy friend can be a great help , because you need to get all the anger and hatred out of your system and you need a person to listen and not judge you !

@Nisha25

sometimes people who’ve never experienced that pain of whatever type might not understand what you might be going through or they couldn’t even imagine it.
like sheyn said somebody that won’t judge you or make you feel even worse about it b/c they would’ve handled it better or differently. but talking it out will help. if there’s too much emotional crap packed in the mind though it’s sometimes hard to organize the thoughts and think about it clearly.

Alhamdulillah I have my SO who is an angel sent from ALLAH I swear. Its been 4 years that anytime something happens which reminds me of my past I run to him crying and screaming and he does a great job of handling it every time. But since this morning I have had it with my past popping up at every corner and I’m sick of crying but I guess I have no choice and I really need to get closer to my religion which might give me some peace.

@Nisha25

human beings have the ability to develop intense mental strength to deal with all those dark emotions. I kind of understand what you’re talking about. these traumatic things have happened, we don’t know how to deal with them just then so they have to be locked away in that little box just until better days come and we’re not so emotionally messed up at which point we’re better equipped to open that box full of dark emotions and look at it with a clearer more objective mind.

I agree fully! ALLAH doesn’t give us a challenge if he thinks we can’t handle it. So for me, I don’t think its time to open up my dark box. I hope you feel better

[Faris_Udeen]

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My dark side is my obvious side... only those close to me see the good in me, everyone else thinks i'm a nutter and maybe thier right.

[girly_girl]

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Gaia, even if you can't confront the person face to face sometimes it helps to write down on paper (or email) what you would say to the person if you could. Just this simple act of writing it all down and getting all the different emotions out of your system can be therapeutic.

[TLK]

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@sheyn

**Sheyn has friends on the dark side.........U have been warned ! **

@Monk

Sheyn!!!!!

I though we were going to keep it secret.

She said she has friends on the dark side, she did not say she has dark friends.

[oOalyshaOo16]

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@princessjojo

This is very true. Desis have a tough time recognizing that psychological problems or deep rooted resentment etc may be present. There are so many issues such as childhood molestation, being ragged and bullied or even physical abuse/beatings that are not recognized as big deals.

Whatever the topic you are referring to, how about you talk to a counselor of the same cultural background? Or a trusted friend or family member (who you know is more open-minded about these things)?

Agreed ^_^

[Krypton]

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i getchu gaia....

[Nisha25]

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@Gaia

Alhamdulillah I have my SO who is an angel sent from ALLAH I swear. Its been 4 years that anytime something happens which reminds me of my past I run to him crying and screaming and he does a great job of handling it every time. But since this morning I have had it with my past popping up at every corner and I’m sick of crying but I guess I have no choice and I really need to get closer to my religion which might give me some peace.

I agree fully! ALLAH doesn’t give us a challenge if he thinks we can’t handle it. So for me, I don’t think its time to open up my dark box. I hope you feel better

yep, and i’m not ready either but thank you for the kind words, i have no idea what SO stands for but i guess whoever you trust and your faith in Allah/Islam will get you through this tough time and keep you strong.

[Gaia]

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@girly_girl

Gaia, even if you can’t confront the person face to face sometimes it helps to write down on paper (or email) what you would say to the person if you could. Just this simple act of writing it all down and getting all the different emotions out of your system can be therapeutic.

Ya I’ve heard that works, never tried it because I’m scared someone will see it haha

@philosophy

i getchu gaia…

[princessjojo]

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^Write it and destroy it..it really does work, even if only temporarily

[CorruptAngel]

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I guess being closer to religion helps...

Talking with a friend or trustworthy person is easier said then done...especially if you're so hurt from inside that it can be very difficult to express your feelings in words and make the other person understand what you're going through...

[Guac]

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^Write it and destroy it..it really does work, even if only temporarily

I haven't done that for the longest time, the last time was probably in my first years of highschool..........but it did help.........a lot

Nisha25- SO = Significant Other

[Nisha25]

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I guess being closer to religion helps... ** Talking with a friend or trustworthy person is easier said then done...especially if you're so hurt from inside that it can be very difficult to express your feelings in words and make the other person understand what you're going through..**.

exactly and thank you, that's how it is for me too

Nisha25- SO = Significant Other

ugh duh thanks.