As stated above, its a matter of common courtesy to ask before lighting up. And dont even bother if there's an infant or an ill person around. Also dont bother if its in an enclosed area with non-smokers like a car...just dont. It takes a real social idiot to light up without asking first. I have trouble with this, I am a closet smoker and have not been able to give it up but when people find out that i'm a smoker they're actually shocked. Nasty, nasty habit and one that I pray one day I will be able to give up. Meantime, I am always extemely careful not to light up where it could be considered offensive. And you know I dont have a prob (no one should) telling others, hey I'm a smoker too but we gotta take it outside. Or in inclement weather, smoke by the kitchen fan. Smokers know that its a nasty habit that should stay outside but sadly some try to get away with it thinking that no one will say anything. Speak up!!
the gentleman was a ‘desi’, yes… I thought that the comment about me being allergic to cig smoke might get the point across, wihtout being outrightly rude, but it didnt…
I got rid of the smell after fabreezing the crap out of my car… I have no issues with people smoking at public places where they are allowed to do so, as I have the option to keep a safe distance…
^ I've tried the allergy excuse......doesn't work. Some people don't get it. And then they'll even start to justify their situation to you. By saying things like, "Oh, I'll open the window"....."Oh, but I have dog hair on my sweater....how come you're not allergic to that?" Just be honest and say that you don't want them smoking in your car....or in my case....that you have a fear of dogs.
When I was a kid my mom actually put a big 'No Smoking' sign on our front door! :) No one in the family smokes so I think she did that to send the message to a couple that she and my dad were friends with; when they came to the house for a visit they would light up.
My daughter does have allergies, and desis still smoke in front of her in Pakistan. I start coughing and going on about what a disgusting habit smoking is. I tried to be subtle and nice, but it didn't work.
Err why didnt’ he do this sooner? He’s the father, and he should have protected his children first and foremost..instead of being afraid and embarrassed. Stupidity.
You know something i’ve wondered, how hard is it for women to stop smoking when they get pregnant? With all you hear abt how addictive it is, don’t they feel the same physical symptoms of withdrawal when they realize they have to quit?
^ It is strongly discouraged for women to smoke during pregnancy since it can cause serious complications. I believe they tend to cut back on it, if not quit. Isn't it so?
Wow, I never knew anyone who picked up the habit from being pregnant! I've actually heard stories of the opposite----of women who smoked, and all of a sudden smoking started making them nauseous and they couldn't stand it anymore---and then they discovered they were pregnant! I guess with all the wacky things that pregnancy does to your body anything could happen.
Yes, when pregnant, the urge to smoke goes away. Probably there are some who crave it only when pregnant for some reason ... but for sure and for most, you just dont want to (and should not) when pregnant.
Funny thing, the urge to smoke came back with a vengeance within hours of giving birth each time - just as my "need" for a daily dose of chocolate disappeared.
i would have had stopped the car in the middle of the road, and asked that person TO LEAVE RIGHT THIS MINUTE.
i cant risk my life cuz of someone else's disgusting habit.
Zobia, you GO girl!! I respect your reaction SO much more than one who says that they're "allergic" to the smoke. Although it CAN be true, its actually pretty rare to be allergic to cigarrette smoke and people use it as an excuse because they're just too wimpy to state their wishes.
Heck, I'm a smoker but I do my very best not to intrude my bad habits on others. And I have the utmost respect for those who say "take it outside, I dont want it near me".
Zobia, you GO girl!! I respect your reaction SO much more than one who says that they're "allergic" to the smoke. Although it CAN be true, its actually pretty rare to be allergic to cigarrette smoke and people use it as an excuse because they're just too wimpy to state their wishes.
Heck, I'm a smoker but I do my very best not to intrude my bad habits on others. And I have the utmost respect for those who say "take it outside, I dont want it near me".
Mama, we've been taught to be polite to people, thats part of our upbringing, nothing wimpy about that. Also, desis dont take it too nicely when they are told to 'take it outside', trust me.
Afterall he is a friend and to drop someone off in the middle of a highway with a freezing windchill to die, just because of that little thing is absurd, and quite frankly disturbing. I think its still better to tolerate this nuisance once (one little puff of 2nd hand smoke isnt really a risk to my life), maintain your self control/dignity, and avoid him the next time around. He is not getting a ride from me again, that much is for sure.
Spock, that reaction is extreme for sure...but one could surely say "Listen man...smoke really gets to me so could you wait till we get there? I'd appreciate it man." No decent person could take offense to that. Telling someone "Hey I'm allergic to smoke" doesnt cut it. So the one-time, uncomfortable telling the guy that it gets to you is over and done with and you won't end up trying to avoid the friend for the rest of your life for fear that he'll stink up your car yeah? Get it said, keep a friend and never have to worry again.
I dont think you have interacted with ‘our’ kind. Trust me, they wont even take kindly to being asked to take their shoes off.
It does, worked for me every time except this one instance. Whether its the truth or not, doesnt matter, how would he know my medical background to ascertain that. And trust me, ALOT of people are allergic to cig smoke.
Actually, I did retain the friendship… Asking him to leave my car out in the freezing cold in the middle of a highway is what would have ended the friendship for sure though.
Spock, that reaction is extreme for sure...but one could surely say "Listen man...smoke really gets to me so could you wait till we get there? I'd appreciate it man." No decent person could take offense to that. Telling someone "*Hey I'm allergic to smoke" doesnt cut it. *.
Also... if he doesnt care im allergic to it, i dont think he'll care whether it 'gets to me or not'.
