dealing with muslim women marrying non-muslims

Sara516 · May 19, 2010, 7:16am

@shardmanny changed my nick? it’s the same, emaanW .. … yes the posts have become more political in nature … but my story is quite long too … i dont know if i want to post the whole “drama” here … what i would like people to talk about though is … how do you treat someone (a woman) who has married outside of religion or has a committed relationship with a non-muslim man? is her action really so bad that she should face physical abuse from her parents, have the community talk ill of her? is she really not a muslim anymore, and does this really break all relationships? i didnt come here to post my story and receive sympathy or be told what a bad muslim i am. i just want to know what people think about it and have a discussion over it without the burden of knowing faces.

but just to tell a bit. i had a relationship with a non-muslim man when i was younger. faced a lot of physical and verbal abuse at the hands of my father. some cousins went all weird on me. life became more strict. it was quite a traumatic experience. later i tried to be with a muslim man … but what happened with him , i dont want to go in any detail, but it totally ****ed me up … more crap from home. they tried fixing me up in a marriage with a guy from islamabad. wow! and they thought he was gem! i admit all this did turn me rebellious in the sense that i would deliberately provoke them at times by coming home later than the curfew, have a white guy drop me home, etc. but it just ended up getting messier and messier. and now a few months ago i left home. i am living by myself. they dont want to hear from me, and i dont want to be in that house again.

You did this all while being married?