First of all, I support a muslim woman’s right to marry a non-muslim man (christian, jew).
what my issue is, i have come across several instances of muslims supporting it as well and also those who do dont accept such a marriage personally, but also say that they arent a 100% convinced of the impermissibility either. on my blog i created a little poll, and it clearly shows how men largely are against this. 50 percent of the male vote is against it, and 50 percent for it. while 90% of the women are for it, and 10 percent against it.
i find the reasoning against such a marriage so ludicrous. non of it makes sense to me. why are we so hesitant to reinterpret the Quran? they always end up quoting one mullah or the other … why cant he be wrong? why isnt there a possibility that he has become situationally irrelevant? why arent there female scholars? why is a woman so useless? or at least made to feel?
for personal reasons and issues, it has become impossible for me to choose from amongst the muslim lot. and those of you who might say, well, fix your issues. try switching your life for mine! one could say that my stance is based upon my circumstances, and carries no weight. doesnt everybody live life and make decisions based upon that?
i also know that there is a general ideology that claims even muslim men arent allowed to marry non-muslims, considering the times we live in, and in reference to living in the west, blabla … what i want to ask is. why do i, as a woman, have to face such hardships, be cut off from family, and have everybody go all judgmental on me if i choose to marry a non-muslim, while a muslim man marrying a non-muslim is ultimately alright?
only now do i hear about 2 imams that are willing to carry out the official religious marriage between a muslim woman and a non-muslim man, while for the other way around, it’s absolutely no problem?
why is God going to punish me for not being able to find happiness with a muslim man (i’ve only found misery there, this world isnt perfect … maybe you have found luck with it, i havent, so should i kill my needs?) ..