I have a very bchy sister-in-law (brothers wife)…shes the type who lived in a village in pakistan with hardly a house to live in and hardly any money to eat…so now that shes come to UK after marrying my brother…she has decided to turn into a right b*…and since she has got her British Passport it has made matters much worse.
I also have another sister-in-law from Pakistan and shes very nice (so i have nothing against people from back home)…its just this one sister-in-law that I hate.
so initially both my sister in laws were staying with my parents but the b***** one has recently moved next door to my dads other house. Her divorced brother has recently got married…and hes decided to stay a few days in my dads other house…
so anyway, we were invited to a post-marriage dinner to my parents house…and b***** sister-in-laws bro’s wife (bride) was also there…me and my sisters family were just sitting there when i could hear y sis-in-law talking to my mom in the kitchen…she was saying her bros wife needs to sleep…but was talking so rudely. she came to the room where me and my sis and her bros wife were sitting…and she said to her bros wife “come lets go you need to sleep now”…and then she said to me in such a horrible way “your moms calling you”…i didnt hear her so i asked her to repeat and she repeated it again…i went there and my mom said to me and my sister “call your husbands now to go…” in other words she was saying that we should go home now…personally the way this was done i found it very rude…the fact that my b sis-in-law has the cheek to go and tell my mom to say this to me…i found it very rude…if you have invited someone to your house…you dont tell them to go!..and it wasnt even that late…and my husband, my sis’s husband and my bro etc…were just talking…why did the whole house have to be evacuated just because my b***** sister-in-laws bros wife needs to sleep (its not even their house!!!)…if she wants to sleep in my dads house…she can bloody go upstairs and sleep…why did they tell us to leave…ive been so angry since last night…
Maybe I havent been able to explain properly here the whole story…but thats a summary…basically this b****** sis-in-law is trying to act like she owns both my dads houses and she treats me and my sis like ****…especially the way we were told to leave yesterday…
We are invited again today…but me and my husband dont want to go…what should we do? whats the point of inviting us if they’re going to tell us to leave? i just find that so rude…and behind it is my ****** sister in law…I just hate her…and never want to see her face again…
Don't go today if she has any amount of brain at all she will understand why you and your husband did not come plus I would say that for the sake of your self respect don't go.
On all the other things your parents need to take a stand , you can not do anything. It's their house and they can claim it back if they want to.
The whole story that your SIL's bhabi needs to go to sleep sounds so stupid and childish. Your SIL seriously needs to learn some manners. Even people with infants and toddlers don't create such issues that their kids want to go to sleep so the guests must leave ........ lol ! and btw who is your SIL to decide the sleeping time of her bhabi ? I feel sorry for the new bride.
I dont want to go.....but if I dont go then they will call me and ask when we are coming.....thats what happened yesterday....we got abit late....and they called to ask when we are coming.....if they call today what should I say? if I say im not coming....my mom will ask why not and most likely its my mom who will call......and I dont want to upset my mom as well...especially at that time when other guests will be there too.
do you think I should go to my moms house earlier on in the day and tell her that I dont want to come for the dinner because of my sister-in-laws attitude yesterday?
im thinking about going to my moms today...before the dinner and telling her why im not coming....However, this b****** sister-in-law will be there too since her brother and wife are staying at where she normally lives....how should I behave with her?
Also, her IQ level is very low cuz shes so jahil and uneducated....so im sure shes so stupid that even if we dont go to the dinner....she wont realise why.
Princess- you can not control what others think and how they behave. But you can control what you think and how you behave. You are very angry at your SIL and I understand that.........if her IQ is low and if she won't realise or whatever don't bother about it you will make yourself have bad feelings.
You can speak with your mom on phone.
and behave normally with her ....apnay ikhlaaq ko mat choro.
you are right but i dont like talking on the phone....i would rather go there and talk to my mum about this issue...i m sure she will understand that.......but if she doesnt understand that and says to me its alright u should'nt mind her for the sake of family relationship(because she often says that) then what should i say or do....please guide me
Don't think too much about this issue....don't even discuss this with your mother...That poor girl doesn;t has a normal mind!!! You have this strange relationship with your bhabi...I have a very close person in my who is a bit like your bhabi.....I ignore the things she says....I go to her house whenever I have to go...further I talk normal as I do with everyone....But everytime she says something that hurts I don't bother anymore...Coz even telling her doesn't help....she doesn't wants to understand....So don't waste your energy for that kind of people...they are not worth it!!! You should go tonight!
Just don't go. When they call you tell them that you have to go somewhere with your husband .
You know your family well (more than any of us over here) and you should find a way to communicate your feelings.
if we just dont go and say we have to go somewhere....then they will think we have some work....and they wont understand that we're angry about what happened....and then next time they invite us it will be same thing...
i want to talk to my mom about it ....i think i should go there in abit and tell her that I didnt like the way my sis-in-law behaved....i know most likely she will say it doesnt matter etc.etc......but then i can just say to her....that i wont come....because i felt bad about it....and my husband doesnt want to go too.....then im sure my mom will tell my sis-in-law why we didnt go...
would that be ok?
Coz even telling her doesn't help....she doesn't wants to understand....So don't waste your energy for that kind of people...they are not worth it!!! You should go tonight!
she knows what she has done.....because she tried to avoid me after my mom spoke to me about leaving....If I go tonight....theres no self respect for me and she will continue doing it. she'll think i dont mind what she says or does.
if we just dont go and say we have to go somewhere....then they will think we have some work....and they wont understand that we're angry about what happened....and then next time they invite us it will be same thing...
i want to talk to my mom about it ....i think i should go there in abit and tell her that I didnt like the way my sis-in-law behaved....i know most likely she will say it doesnt matter etc.etc......but then i can just say to her....that i wont come....because i felt bad about it....and my husband doesnt want to go too.....then im sure my mom will tell my sis-in-law why we didnt go...
would that be ok?
yes then go and discus with your mom.
if you are saying that she already realises then she would understand why you did not come. But it's better to discus with your mom because she is the elder.
how does your sister feel about this situation? as it affected both of you, perhaps it would make more sense if both of you discussed it with your mum. it might be taken more seriously if two daughters are airing their concerns rather than one daughter doing it alone.... just because you are married and live in your house, does not at all mean that you have no rights over that house! it is still your parents house, as it was before you got married! you should not be made to feel uncomfortable in your own parents house, specially when you have been invited over for dinner!
i say, dont let your SIL get away with this, if you do, it will only lead her to pushing the boundries further and further...god forbid, she might turn on your parents next...?! who knows! so discuss it with your mum or your brother! Some one needs to speak to your SIL to drill some sense into her. Its best if your brother does it infact!
how does your broher feel about this? does he not say anything to his wife about her behavior? In this situation I would not go to the dinner and be straight forward about the reason. I would let them know that it was rude and I prefer to not let that happen again.
how does your sister feel about this situation? as it affected both of you, perhaps it would make more sense if both of you discussed it with your mum. it might be taken more seriously if two daughters are airing their concerns rather than one daughter doing it alone.... just because you are married and live in your house, does not at all mean that you have no rights over that house! it is still your parents house, as it was before you got married! you should not be made to feel uncomfortable in your own parents house, specially when you have been invited over for dinner!
i say, dont let your SIL get away with this, if you do, it will only lead her to pushing the boundries further and further...god forbid, she might turn on your parents next...?! who knows! so discuss it with your mum or your brother! Some one needs to speak to your SIL to drill some sense into her. Its best if your brother does it infact!
I left straight away....just called my husband and said "they want to sleep so lets go".....when we sat in the car....i noticed my sister and her husband left too.....but my sister does feel bad about it inside but she doesnt say anything....
how does your broher feel about this? does he not say anything to his wife about her behavior? In this situation I would not go to the dinner and be straight forward about the reason. I would let them know that it was rude and I prefer to not let that happen again.
my brother doesnt speak much...and she has full control over him...shes very chalak.
she knows what she has done.....because she tried to avoid me after my mom spoke to me about leaving....If I go tonight....theres no self respect for me and she will continue doing it. she'll think i dont mind what she says or does.
ok first, she already thinks she can do/say anything... you minding it and not going wont make a difference... so advice BE *****Y! if she tell u to leave or make any other nasty remarks figure out a smart way of telling her off....
i think you should go if ur parents are also there its not her house, else i would leave it and wont have much contact with my brother and his wife..
what i dont understand, does ur brother and SIL live with your parents? so u would be going to ur parents house? will they be present...?
