Hareemhoney - you're really not helping. certain situations don't permit moms to stay home. that said please lets try and answer the question here not introduce another debate.
sadzz thanks that does help me. Anything you can think of that I should be doing for the little one when he goes to DayCare?
Mama0f3 thats what we were wondering too - there is a kid in the family whose always around his mother and home basically and he's just a terrible little brat whose afraid of everything. We didnt want that to happen to Ayman either. So we had a nanny situation where she had her own boys his age. Was working out perfectly until she started asking for a million days off. So then the next option was DayCare. Yesterday was his first day. :(
As for the extended family - I dont think anyone is willing to care for him. And I'm not going to force anyone... my baby deserves to be wanted.
I work really close to his school so I get to make atleast 3 visits a day and he seems fine. But whose to tell a mother's heart?
Muniya.. i totally understand. I work about 15min train ride from my daughters childcare and in the beginning it was SO hard.. i was calling at least 2-3 times a day and my hubz had to tell me to just back off and let the minders do their job.. but i felt like a bad mother who didnt care about her daughter... sometimes id go during my lunch break and have a look and she'd be walking around not crying but whinging.. and she would attach herself to one person for the day and not let them do anything..
this happened for about 3 weeks.. and now about 5 months later, everyone is like "this kid is nothing what she used to be".. shes Mashallah independant, talking non-stop.. the minders love her.. they adore her and thats what made me really happy. All the other parents know of her so it makes my job easier.
To make him feel safe, maybe provide a toy he is attached to. At 6 months he may be a little too young to be attached but you can try. Or maybe even his favorite blanky.. My daughter was a lil older when i put her and by that time she was completely attached to "goofy"
Also, try not to visit so often. If he sees you he'll get destressed. Cus the constant coming and going might upset him. Have a peek or something, but dont go infront of him
One day i went to childcare and the minders said some guy had come during lunch and my daughter was crying like mad when he left.. apparently my BIL had gone to see her.. so yeah we just told him to just becareful.
Now, I have to bribe her to come home with me. She rules that joint