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Haha..hope is a great thing, we cannot claim monopoly but certainly can claim a big market share.
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I find such lack of honesty in this thread, a couple of years back when I was still stupid I put my nephew and my wife’s nephew on shaadi.com and the shameless gold digging I came across was really shocking. I will give you guys an example, this guy was working in Saudi and his daughter was doing masters in US and I thought his daughter would be more suitable for the engineer in Montreal and he told me he is not interested in him as CPAs in New York make a lot more money so it is either Farhan or no go.. So it wasnt about pious non pious, compatibility no compatibility but who is the highest bidder. Funny the engineer moved to NY and is a VP at BAC now as he also completed his MBA. The transactional nature of love is very disturbing..just friggin allow yourselves to fall in love, dont make lists let your heart guide you. This is how I raised my children.
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Thank u thank u. Just wanted to check if I still remember my password xD.
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infidelity for sure. I can’t stand that crap.
Conservative minded. Likeee don’t try patriarchy with me.
Bad character
Smoker - I am not about to die of 2nd hand smoking lol.
Those are the ones that come to mind
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What about guys who curse a lot? Not curse anyone in particular but just use curse words in every other sentence. Will that be a deal breaker for people here if the guy is otherwise great.
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Depends on your age, most girls I know don’t care cause a lot of them cuss too, even hijabis.
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A lot of guys would consider militant feminism a deal breaker.
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How can you say people are not being honest here? You have encountered that type of example where they look for the highest bidder. Here people are just listing traits that a potential partner might have that would lead them to no longer consider them for purposes of marriage. The people you’ve interacted with might not have had the same requirements of religious observance but I know of examples where rishtas have been rejected due to the guys having habits like drinking/clubbing and not observing religious duties, despite the fact that they had good incomes.
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Impudence, Incivility, Sacrilege.
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Nicely put :k:
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And I have come across lots of really amazing guys rejected because although they were naik, shareef, incredibly pious but werent engineers and doctors and did not belong to rich families or were too dark or weren’t Syed’s, pathans and zaat paat. Please just peruse the rishta section of GS, they are asking for heights, zaat paat, education etc. Have you ever come across a Pakistani elite who married his daughter to an incredibly shareef peon? The most incredible thing is everyone I talk to claims to have such lofty piety and morals and yet in our daily lives there is an incredible corruption and baimaani…
We are very large families on both sides and have been involved in the rishta stuff for many nephews for a long time so I do have an idea what is really going on.
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^Babbeee Baji wants to condemn rejection based on looks and financial status and yet strangely so many of her posts show a disturbing obsession with her own looks and everyone else’s hawtttness or notttnesss and also about how much money everyone and their naani and billi makes. Baji tussi chup rehnday oh te zyada sohnay lagde oh. In your case, famous proverb by Einsten applies…“Women should be seen and not heard.” :khatti:
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Comprehension skills pappu!! I am all in for physical attraction and that has always been the first thing on my list and that is what I tell my boys, everything else is secondary…if you commit your life to someone than your heart better jump out of your chest for her. I tell my boys if they find someone good enough they can change their ideology for her. For hot enough, heck they can even marry a Hijabi.
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How generous of you to allow “even” a hijaban. But I’ll warn you. If that happens, then their ideology might become like that of the Mawwwz-lems (Muslims) and that will give you more tidd peerh than usual.
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I think he is dating a Muslim girl right now, also a nice Palestinian girl was liking Harris also but Harris says she is very promiscuous. I like Muslims as long as there is no belligerence. PS my brother acts muslim in front of his wife then eats Mcdonalds when she is not watching so you can always fake it. Caitlins BF was telling her he became vegetarian for her then I saw his face stuffed with a big rib.
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How cute. Harris cares about virtue all of a sudden.
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The way it goes is serial monogamy and not being with several partners at the same time. It is a personal choice.
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Girls that can’t carry a conversation - without always making it about them.
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Arrogance then. And for some reason the guys that I always have a crush on end up being narcissistic, arrogant, and almost never ask about me.
What would be an example of that? You’re in mid sentence talking about something important to you and then the person interrupts and says oh yeah that happened to me and blah blah blah blah?