Re: Dealbreakers
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Deeba’s initial post said asking PERMISSION to leave the house…..not informing. Big difference.
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That bold part is something I’d have a HUGE problem with. Unless I’m mentally unstable….there is no “just” reason for my in-laws to tell me that I can’t go out. Its not like I go out of the house to sleep with other men. My going out involves work, eating out, shopping, random errands etc. The normal usual stuff that every ADULT does.
I don’t have an issue INFORMING someone that I’m going out with the understanding that they don’t have a right to tell me not to go, and not ask me 100 questions about details of my outing. I don’t mind if/when my husband asks me details and usually I volunteer that info. to him anyway…..but I’d have a huge problem if all of a sudden my in-laws thought they could also start asking details.
As for parents…..we are their child. Even when we become adults….if we’re living with our parents, its different b/c we have built that relationship since birth and in their eyes, we will always be that child they raised. For example, if I sleep until noon at my parents house….my mom won’t say anything at all. If I do that with my in-laws….my MIL would be making all types of comments about my lack of manners. The dynamics of these two relationships are totally different.