Hello all,
I’m wondering if anyone has been to a wedding in the states or elsewhere where the wedding was held around noon, and ended by 5? Most of the white weddings I’ve been to are during the day time, and the fiance and i would LOve love LOVeee to have a daytime wedding. I’m trying to gather enough courage to even ask my mom if we can do this but i’m afraid shes just going to laugh when she hears.
Is it really that unreasonable? …
Are there going to be pakistani logistic problems (rukhsati…lunch..dinner??) …
i think a daytime lunch wedding is an awesome idea!
a) lunch weddings are cheaper per person therefore you can get more bang for your buck. hotels, esp., offer great deals. imagine a lovely rooftop patio or an outdoor wedding with a crisp white tent. gorgeous!
b) daytime pictures trump evening/nighttime pictures!
c) people get to attend a wedding AND have the evening off- this esp. makes sense for sunday weddings (since most people work mondays).
d) the clothes! i love that you can wear really light pretty daytime colours to daytime weddings- just as formal as evening weddings but more fun, imho and a nice change from darker colours.
e) rukhsati is just saying bye to your fam at the end of the affair- you can say it any time and in fact, this way, you get to go home and actually chill with your new hubby and your/his family and relax, as opposed to going home and being all hectic and staying up late. or you can host a kick ass after party for your friends over dinner somewhere nice. or just take a nap.
f) (f for finally, geddit? i'm so good at point form statements :p) you and your fiance would "LOve love LOVeee" a daytime affair. do you really need another reason to do it?
yep! we had an afternoon valima for a family member in our family and it worked out very nice! everything was done in nice light colors and there was so much light, it felt heavenly :)
Well you guys make really good points. I want my wedding to be bright and memorable and I think it makes a big difference in the pictures/videos. Another really important thing that somegroovychick brought up is that my wedding's going to be on a sunday, and people will have work the day after. We found a location we really like a drive away from home so it's important to end the even earlier, if not in the daytime. I'm goign to be wearing a beautiful light coloured dress in pinks and golds inshallah so that works too.. still i can't help but think....
But seriously though… in light of an post made earlier.. is it a daunting task to expect Pakistani friends and family to show up to an event no later than 12 noon??.. How can we express that we’re serious about the timing?
And most of all.. my mom’s pretty cool and open minded and not traditional so why do i feel super silly proposing the idea to her?!
who cares what the aunties say? is it your day or theirs? plus, if they're prone to gossip, they'll find plenty to gossip about at your evening wedding too. so you can either try to please them and most likely fail, since they like to gossip anyway, OR you could go ahead and have the day of your dreams. i vote for the latter!
i dunno why you're feeling silly talking to your mum about it lol don't, though. its a perfectly valid wish to have a daytime wedding, and to be honest, i have a feeling people would show up more on time because its a daytime wedding and so they know lunch is at 2 and that's it, no dragging it out until 10 at night because you'll be leaving the venue at 5. i'd probably put 12 on the invites and expect people no later than 1.
and include RSVP cards so the naysaying aunties can just let you know their attendance or lack thereof beforehand.
I think it would be very refreshing and majority of the guests would welcome the change. During wedding season all weddings seem to look the same, the same routine, the same people...changing the time would make a big difference! I wish I could have my valima in the day time.
Thank you for all your replies :D.. It was nice to find this when I got home today. I don't know what I'm worried about! I'm in sunny California, but the wedding's going to be in foggy San Francisco! I love the fog and the rain, I just hope it won't happen on the late June date we have. The venue we're looking at would be so beautiful in the day time with a lot of natural light strolling in. I'm gonna talk to my mom.. So excited now!!
u shud go for a daytime wedding :) ..could have been a lil different if u were in pakistan..coz in pak ..ppl usually dont go for daytime weddings ...unless the barat is comin from another city or so ..m sure ur mom wont hav a problem wid tht ..
n the aunties wud always gossip...from talkin abt the whole event to the details like the jewellery , the food, the dress, oh anything :p
just make sure you get to have a very light nice makeup ..tht doesnt look too caked up in the outdoors too .. :)
My sister had a lunch wedding and it worked very well. They had time constraints and all we could find was an afternoon slot at the banquet hall we wanted.
It worked beautifully, no regrets, no issues, no complaints, etc. The aunties came and brought gifts too! :)
Exactly what SGC mentioned above. Speaking from personal, they work out BEAUTIFULLY. I had mine in the mid-morning - afternoon/early evening. It was just amazing. It was fun, pictures turned out BEAUTIFUL. We had time in the evening to party and just chill. And yeah, it's getting very popular with the south-east asian crowd. We had an awesome breakfast served followed by lunch. You're mostly able to work out AMAZING deals with banquet managers for Sunday or day time events. So yeah DEFINITELY worth giving it a shot :) Good luck!
u shud go for a daytime wedding :) ..could have been a lil different if u were in pakistan..coz in pak ..ppl usually dont go for daytime weddings ...unless the barat is comin from another city or so ..m sure ur mom wont hav a problem wid tht ..
just make sure you get to have a very light nice makeup ..tht doesnt look too caked up in the outdoors too .. :)
gud luck ! :D
my wedding's gonna be in the afternoon iA too! this thread has got me all excited about it, i wasn't even thinking about the differences before until now :) we didnt have a choice thou bc of the reason enigmatica mentioned about the baraat coming from another city.
White people/christians have their wedding ceremony in the day time and their reception in the evening on the same day. Hindus and Sikhs do this as well.
It doesn't make sense to me to have a Pakistani Muslim wedding in the day time because we have our 'reception'/walimah the next day. If you want to take pics in the daylight get ready early and go to a park a few hours before the wedding.
You could also have the nikkah in the masjid in the daytime and have the wedding in the evening, but it is a little bit of a hassle.
I wouldn't have a daytime shadi because I don't want guests to have 'lunch' at my wedding. I think a proper dinner is still better than a lunch.
There are daytime weddings in Lahore but only due to limitied availability of halls. It is not preferred.
