Re: Day after wedding traditions
I only know one person who this has actually happened to, and her in-laws were from Pakistan. But I’ve heard about it from other girls as well. I don’t think that happens to anyone outside of Pakistan really cause most couples go to hotels and here in-laws have better sense than to humiliate the poor girl. But some elders are also very comfortable and open, and they think it’s funny to get in your business about it!
The morning after my cousin’s wedding, my Khala and I went to the hotel to take her to her MUA for the Valima. As soon as she sat in the car my Khala asked: Soooo… how was it?! We were totally shocked! My cousin didn’t answer, just smiled shyly, I could tell she was horrified.
I thought bari was given to you before the wedding? Cause doesn’t your valima jora, set, shoes, etc. all come as part of the bari? At my engagement my in-laws came to our house a week before to give me everything for the engagement plus all the gifts.