Daughter-In-Law's Money

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Re: Daughter-In-Law’s Money

@Chicken_Biryani

Agreed . I think when we say “taking someone else’s gift” , the first thing is to determine why they think that gift is their’s . That is what we are talking about here. Those who are well versed with the Pakistani culture, will know lena dena plays a major role in relationships there , to keep it all fair between themselves.

We have seen a varied response even in this thread. So we cant really say who is right or wrong. Also to add , that the money is not for the parents to pay for the meal costs. I will give an example: we have three weddings at different times in our family, Phupo XYZ gave £1000 each time. Now there is a shadi in her family, we need to be fair in gifting her either accordingly or better if we can afford.

Its a bit of a complex gifting system, which varies from family to family. That is why , its best to depend on the spouse to find out what the custom is in their family and move forward accordingly.

It may be the culture in some specific part of Pakistan. I am Pakistani and haven every heard of in laws keeping the monetary gifts.