Daughter-In-Law's Money

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@S_and_S

But why would money from a reception hosted by the parents go to the couple..in the case that guys/girls parents paid to host the Valima or reception? I mean it’s the parents throwing a reception not the actual couple in most cases and most attendants are the guests of the parents not the kids…

Dawats are different. But PCG, I don’t know maybe it’s just me not being familiar with memon culture but that just sounds outright absurd to me. Clearly there were other issues from your posts with that rishta. However, had the family been really nice and your parents all got along rosey and they still hadn’t given you even water, you would have potentially ruined a perfectly good rishta over it? Seriously? Sounds really weird and cray to me.

It’s a wedding gift, not a way to off-set costs of an extravagant reception.

This! The expectation that salami is way to for the parents to recoup their expenses for the meal they just served their guests sounds absurd to me.