You'll have to go through my dad first and knowing him, he'll bring out his rifle.
would saying, "*uncle, i am charmed by your daughter, i merely want to know more about her for she entrancing me... makes me feel humble in my ignorance as i know nothing about her. Sir please let me explore her" *, do the trick?
Well Pakistani media (particularly dramas) have always shown "dating," whether it be the boss taking his secretary to chai, or two people dining together as college friends, and etc.
funguy, carebear, hicuup....ur jus sum of da ppl i agree wid. i think that dating is a waste of time n a lot of time when ppl date their jus doin it 4 da fact that theyre 'datin' u kno not really 2 get 2 kno the other person or nethin. also from my experience a lot desi ppl who date r doin 2 follow the trend of 'americans' as pakistan seems 2 want 2 become the next u.s. day by day. (n im not jus sayin that 2 b snide......jus look at da media the stores the clothing....) this 'americanization' REALLY pissed me off when i visited pak last summer. but luckily my family thats over there (most of it neways) werent effected by it b/c theyre really good muslim n a lot of my family realizes that keepin our customs n wearin shalwar kameez is good. im not sayin that im like that. im quite the opposite. i like jeans but i like shalwar kameez 2 n watchin ppl in pak dressin like that kinda made me mad. ok lets get off the case of clothes dunno how i got there.....i think datin is wong n a waste of time and if u really wanted 2 get 2 know the person u were gonna marry it wouldnt matter 2 u that there was chaperon in da room or w/e place.....:)
ahmadjee is right..."dating" in Pakistan doesn't consist of two people of opposite gender going out for a planned coffee or dinner or something but there are chances for couples to get to know each other during family events or college etc and they can definitely find chances to talk and stuff...
i partly agree with you CareBear. nice thoughts :)
not regarding this issue but just a general comment... i think differently abt fate than u...i believe in fate too, but i think there should be a balance between effort and reliance on fate...i dont think insaan apni kismat poori khud banata hae...everything is in Allah's hands...but i do believe that mehnat aur dua kismatein badal sakti haen...remember on laylatul Qadr they say Allah miaan writes our kismat...and we are supposed to pray hard during that night...that means we can change our kismat..ofcourse, some things r not in our control, and we got to have sabar when something happens, accepting it as Allah ki marzi...lekin about the future...i really believe in the power of DUA..and DIL KEE SACHAI in NIYAT...if we want something, we can't rely on kismat for it to happen can we? :S we have to give it our heart and soul...sometimes we can try our best but still not succeed, and that's when we have to accept it as our kismat and Allah ki marzi...but we should always try with our last breath n drop of blood...with every halal means possible...and pray to Allah swt for it to happen...and if there's no halal way we can atleast pray to Allah swt and pour all our emotion into our dua...beshak Allah swt is listening to true prayers and is MEHRBAAN to us when we ask Him for something...subhanallah...
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*Originally posted by Hum Sa Ho To Samne Aaye: *
Should I beat my bro with a stick?
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depends :)
LOL true!
the number of times someone you have to put up with your friends going ga-ga over some idiotic guy, all the yadayada crap,
waste of money and braincells, you dont have to ‘date’ a guy to know him well enough
and yes i would beat him with a stick 
ive told him already if he ‘goes out’ with any girls im gonna be keeping a trackrecord to show his wife 
Very interesting subject...good to see that everyone is talking so openly about this topic.
The whole dating scene is becoming very common so to speak, in Pakistan. I think people have grown past the whole "what if" scenario and decided that they will take things in their own hands. I think its fine to hang out once in a while with someone of the opposite sex, as long as both know that they should not take advantage of the situation. It should be known "up front" before it becomes a frequent habit.
Dating is okay if one is merely seeking to get to know the other party. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. You just have to be careful where you hang out and try to avoid places where other elders of the community may see you...otherwise there is always trouble.
Like I said, many young desis are doing it, and are perfectly okay with it. I have even met friends who have parents introduce other parents of their kids boyfriends and/or girlfriends. I personally don't approve of that, because I think members in our desi community make the short and simple story into a long and convoluted one.
i like the idea of "supervised" dating. it doesnt have to be with ur parents around .go out with friends in a group, like funguy said or take older brothers or sister who are cook with it, can give u privacy from time to time.
Re: Dating among desies
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Such open-mindedness, such liberality, such frankness…
It’s good to see that finally we are heading in a positive direction…
Reminds me of Akbar IlahAbadi’s famous shair:
Bay Parda kal jo aaein nazar chund bibiyaan,
Akbar zameen main ghairat-e-Qaumi say garh gaya,
Poocha jo mainay aap ka Parda woh kiya hua,
Kehne lageen kay aqal ki mardon pay parh gaya…