first define dating.....
Personally I think it's stupid, it sounds like a waste of time and unnecessary drama. Why some one would like to spend their time and energy getting wrapped up in the mind games and such rubbish. Not to mention the money that you have to spend to commemorate first weeks, first months, birthdays, anniversaries and BS such as valentines day..etc....is beyond me.
I think my life is much simplier and less complicated without all the rubbish that other people my age go through. I've not only saved my-self inevitable heartache and other related medical ailments but time and money as well. A pretty good deal if you ask me.
And I don't see why something happening necessarily means that it's right. It just illustrates the growth of idiots in "our" community. And idiots shouldn't have the right to pro-create, so Im thinking we put them all in nunneries/monastries or whatever the equivilant is. So that the world is not plagued with more fools.
And if any of my siblings decided to "date" I'd beat them with a stick.
I bet you would be loads of fun on a date
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*Originally posted by hiccup: *
Personally I think it's stupid, it sounds like a waste of time and unnecessary drama. Why some one would like to spend their time and energy getting wrapped up in the mind games and such rubbish. Not to mention the money that you have to spend to commemorate first weeks, first months, birthdays, anniversaries and BS such as valentines day..etc....is beyond me.
I think my life is much simplier and less complicated without all the rubbish that other people my age go through. I've not only saved my-self inevitable heartache and other related medical ailments but time and money as well. A pretty good deal if you ask me.
And if any of my siblings decided to "date" I'd beat them with a stick.
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AGREED!! :biggthumb
I also think its just waste of time and money
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*Originally posted by punjab da sher: *
I bet you would be loads of fun on a date
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Sarcasm is so beneath you.
I can do "fun" just as long as it doesn't involve a dumb-ass concept like dating.
Guys ... keep the emotions down a little bit! Shukria :-)
let us not beat around the bush how many % of people indulge in pre-martial sex in pakistan/india ? is it increasing every year?
^ I don't think anyone is beating around the bush. Dating is not always of sexual nature unless you are in your puberty and wanna score every time you go out. Ahmadjee wrote some valid points. I have gone out with a few girls in the past and talked strictly ‘business’ but I wouldn’t call those dates per say…but they are 'dates' for the lack of better word.
You would be surprised how many desi girls want to go out, meet people and see if they are compatible with them or not. Its our community’s gossip which makes them hesitant to step forward. It’s a shame to see a couple who has nothing in common and are living their lives together just because they never got a chance to find a mate of their choice. You meet people you like them…dislike them and move forward….nothing wrong with that.
I hear what muslims have to say on this and I don’t object to muslim beliefs and ideology, however, looking at the college-culture in Pakistan..I say people should feel free to voice their opinions...go out and 'have fun' rather that shoving a harmless activity under the carpet.
hicup, :-D if I send you a check for all those occasions..would you change your mind?
Should I beat my bro with a stick?
Personally, I don't think I'd actually want to date. Yes, it would be nice to get to know the person before you got married to them. I just don't see myself socializing for the purpose of finding a compatible person. Some people might disagree, saying I'd miss out on a chance of finding the 'right person'. But, i guess I'm a strong believer of fate. (I might sound childish, but I believe whatever's meant to be, will be. No matter how it's approached.)
AJ - Good points! :-)
I think desis should do group-dating. At least TWO couples go on an outing together. This way the girl can tell her parents that she is going out with friends and NOT with some guy. Instead of the guy coming over to pick up his date, they should all meet in a public place like a mall or restaurant.
i dont like this dating shating crap...next thing we know desi couples will be living together before marriage..hey i m not perfect..i have gone out with girls before too but jo baat ghalat hai woh ghalat hai
I agree with funguy and teens (as well as people in their twenties ahem) shouldn't hide stuff from their parents. Somehow if you know that your parents know and trust you in this matter, you'll automatically stay in your limits.
hicup, :-D if I send you a check for all those occasions..would you change your mind?<<<
No idea what you are saying, feel free to enlighten me.
Should I beat my bro with a stick?<<<
Two sticks, three depending on the amount of "dates". Beating is all proportional.
I better bring out the AK-47 instead.
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You would be surprised how many desi girls want to go out, meet people and see if they are compatible with them or not. Its our community’s gossip which makes them hesitant to step forward.
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How many girls Boss?
I'd like to meet as few guys as possible, but unfortunately you have to go through a rotten patch before you meet the right person.
I noticed that when we were younger, in highschool the Pakistani girls were more open to dating, especially guys of other races. And now those girls are happily married to good, wholesome Pakistani guys. For some reason I could never do that. I don't think I could have a boyfriend and not develop it into something more serious. Meeting people over coffee and stuff is fine though.
Hehe catwoman, meeting someone over coffee would be considered a date in Pakistan :)
lol yeah I suppose Hum sa. Well as long as the parents know what their kids are upto its fine. In this day and age desi parents are becoming more open to kids meeting other people. Well I think anyway.
^ thats great... care for a cup of tea and a bagel?