Oh yea we all know , for many guys, there is an unwritten rule that dating a mate’s sister is a definite no-no.
But what if you were falling for your friend’s sibling?
Would you get the courage and come clean about your feelings or would it be better to keep things schtum?
You know, i don't think this question applies to many desis. I have seen many people marry their friends sister. It's a way to get closer to your friend- atleast with in the desi cultue that I come from.
What normally happens is is that if you like your friend's sibling you ask the friend if their sibling would be okay with marrying him/her.....The friend basically becomes a mediator....
I actually never understood this rule in American culture (And I'm an ABCD)- there are just too many rules about dating- can't date friend's sibling, your friend's ex, don't marry cousing (that I can undersand, but to make a point) making the pool of eligible good guys smaller and smaller till no one's left....
DISCLAIMER::::Just my personal observational experience- Please nobody shoot me down for making immature generalizations....please.... I think I'm going to start adding this disclaimer to each of my posts because I don't know how many of you have noticed but there have been alot of "gang fights" on GS going on recently....I have to think 10X before I write something, and it's sucking out the fun.
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Oh yea we all know , for many guys, there is an unwritten rule that dating a mate's sister is a definite no-no.
But what if you were falling for your friend's sibling?
Would you get the courage and come clean about your feelings or would it be better to keep things schtum?
Do it now !
You know, i don't think this question applies to many desis. I have seen many people marry their friends sister. It's a way to get closer to your friend- atleast with in the desi cultue that I come from.
What normally happens is is that if you like your friend's sibling you ask the friend if their sibling would be okay with marrying him/her.....The friend basically becomes a mediator....
I actually never understood this rule in American culture (And I'm an ABCD)- there are just too many rules about dating- can't date friend's sibling, your friend's ex, don't marry cousing (that I can undersand, but to make a point) making the pool of eligible good guys smaller and smaller till no one's left....
DISCLAIMER::::Just my personal observational experience- Please nobody shoot me down for making immature generalizations....please.... I think I'm going to start adding this disclaimer to each of my posts because I don't know how many of you have noticed but there have been alot of "gang fights" on GS going on recently....I have to think 10X before I write something, and it's sucking out the fun.
I think I'm going to add that too....i got shot down on my very first post :(
Re: Dare to date a mate's sister
Some guys (desi or otherwise) or okay with their friends establishing a relationship with their sister whereas others are strictly against it. In the Western culture, it is different in the sense that DATING is a major part of the relation process, does not necessarily guarantee a commitment, and **CAN **lead to other problems which can be detrimental to a girl's reputation.
I've even read that many guys are not comfortable with their friends liking their sisters because they KNOW how their friend might not have such a CLEAN REPUTATION...and don't want their sisters to get involved with such a friend.
I have seen it work out beautifully in some situations and it is because the guy trusts that his friend is a good person, has a good reputation, comes from a good family, and displays respect toward his parents and sister.........and based on ALL **these qualities.....is more comfortable with him liking his sister. The more **shareef way to do it would be for the guy to discuss his interest in a respectable manner and send his parents for a marriage proposal.
The request to "date your sister" **most likely won't fly **with many conservative desi guys. However, interest can be expressed in a respectful way which is conducive to the girl and her family's reputation.
You know, i don't think this question applies to many desis. I have seen many people marry their friends sister. It's a way to get closer to your friend- atleast with in the desi cultue that I come from.
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Okay , let us redefine this question for ar desi audience
Would ya marry , your best friend or friend’s sister/brother ?
Okay , let us redefine this question for ar desi audience
Would ya marry , your best friend or friend’s sister/brother ?
I find nothing wrong with it.
Re: Dare to date a mate's sister
believe it or not i have dated my friend's sister. But we have kept it private for about 1.5 years till she moved and we had to go our own ways..sighs. She was beautiful! but o well, life goes on. Thank goodness friend didnt get to know or else i would have been killed by now. He aint my friend no more either. He wasnt like a really good friend.. i just knew him a bit thats all.
Re: Dare to date a mate's sister
lol - Aliyish - I think most guys** don't** ask out their friends sister - out of respect? i don't know... or maybe worried about losing friendship - i don't know...
and like Frozen Fire said - even if they dare then it has to be a "secret" affair. :)
Re: Dare to date a mate's sister
No way dude, the unwritten rule applies fully in my case at least. A mate's sister is your own sister, dating is totally TOTALLY out of question. My belief.
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Yeah I agree... if its for a decent marriage, then great why not. If its a fling thing then a big NO.
No way dude, the unwritten rule applies fully in my case at least. A mate's sister is your own sister, dating is totally TOTALLY out of question. My belief.
Nooooooooooooooooooooooooo. C'mon now. Brothers have the hottest friends.
Perhaps I am too old-school or too paindoo to adapt to the new concepts of dating friends’ sisters - but the whole idea disgusts me.
^ but why? i don't get it.
anyways this reminds of Friends episode: remember when chandler started dating ross's sister monica.....
Re: Dare to date a mate's sister
I think if the two people are attracted to each other then go for it!
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^ but why? i don’t get it.
anyways this reminds of Friends episode: remember when chandler started dating ross’s sister monica…
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That was hilarious … what was that dialogue , something like , they dont know that you know that they know.. 
Okay , let us redefine this question for ar desi audience
Would ya marry , your best friend or friend’s sister/brother ?
NO. but that really depends on my friends. I love them, they are nice people and their families are nice. But would I want to be IN that family, heck no.
Re: Dare to date a mate's sister
Since when "dating" became part of respectable relationship between Muslim adults?
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I suppose anything is possible, but I am not particularly keen on having friends offer relative rishta's to me. This is because I feel some of my friends dont know me that well and I wouldnt want them choosing sides if things didnt work.