I am so sick and fking tired of this entire fking planet assuming that all dads are inept at raising children. Almost ALL commercials out there paint dads in a negative light like “Oh no, dad’s in charge, he’s gonna cock up the whole house” cue in sarcastic cartoony music. Case in point, look at this commercial:
Most magazine ads do the same thing. Most article about children are aimed at mothers, never fathers. There is a magazine called Motherhood, NOT fatherhood. Fathers are always assumed to be uninvolved in raising their kids and it is becoming mundane and insulting to a lot of fathers who go out and work their butts off every day to provide for their children and then come home and spend hours with their kids in the evenings and on weekends playing, helping with homework, kissing booboos, and everything in between. Not to mention stay at home dads, a trend that is growing. Fukc you advertising industry and you small minded fukctards!
FINALLY! Cheerio did it right. Go out and support Cheerios for breaking the status quo and doing something right. Share this on FB and on other social media, let’s show these morons that we will support positive images of fathers and that we should do away with the assumed idiotic moron dad role.
Sorry for the swearing, it really bothers me. Even here, on GS, in the parenting forum, whenever anyone has a question, they ask “Hey all the MOMS out there” or “Question for the MOMS on GS”, dads kya mar gaye hain?
you need to move to denmark. dad are JUST as imp as mothers here…
i agree with you… on one hand dads have tobe more hands on.. yet instead of support, they have to put u with “oh this should be fun, dad’s incharge” idiocy.
true, i agree…Dad’s are our society’s ‘unsung’ heroes. society so much biased in favour of mothers that Dad’s are often blurred in a the picture of raising children. i hope people wake up and look around and appreciate Dad’s role in a family.
i know a family in which the wife is handicapped and it was the husband raised and took care of their children. their children were raised perfectly and are productive members of the society.
A father’s role is definitely underplayed especially because they really do make such a huge difference in a child’s life. They are the heros to their daughters and the role models for their son. They single handedly show their sons how to respect and treat women thru their own behavior and they raise their daughters standards of what kind of a man she chooses to build her own family with. I know you as a father aahmed and you truly are all cards in, hands on kinda dad who is raising a great little human. We need to give dads the credit they deserve so the ones who don’t live up to the expectation raise the bar and thoSe who actually do put in their hard work feel they get the appreciation, respect and acknowledgement that they deserve. Hurray for abus of the world!!!
If there is anything I learnt from informative shows like Simpsons, American Dad, Everybody loves Raymond, Family Guy, and such , it’s that TV is right and aahmed is wrong.
Someone needs to give you your own SAH Dad Corner as you’re clearly upset about all those diaper-changing tips learned first-hand simply going to waste, don’t blame your really, I’d be pissed too if most of what I was doing was just uhh kept to myself
Hear hear! I agree with you! My husband is mashAllah an amazing, very capable father to our little guy and we are so appreciative of him! Advertisers are completely behind the times.
@aahmed
hate to be the voice of dissent here but unfortunate in USA fathers are portrayed negatively because they are altogether missing or emotionally absent for a large part of pediatric population.
You and every dad on GS who is involved are a part of a minority.
*“According to 2011 U.S. Census Bureau data, over 24 million children live apart from their biological fathers. That is 1 out of every 3 (33%) children in America. Nearly 2 in 3 (64%) African American children live in father-absent homes. One in three (34%) Hispanic children, and 1 in 4 (25%) white children live in father-absent homes. In 1960, only 11% of children lived in father-absent homes. *”
and these are sites that are just describing missing fathers. there are fathers, that may be part of a childs life technically but emotionally absent.
my personal experience (and thus anecdotal) in working with the public (middle to upper middle class and well off population) has been similar. I see very very few fathers showing up in the ER with injured or sick kids. vast majority are brought in by moms who often leave in the middle of a workday or come straight after work. these working moms, along with the stay at home moms know every single detail of their kids life right off the top of their head. what the kid ate, how many bites, when they pooped, color, character consistency, smell of poop. who they played with, how long, which toys, last sneeze, last cough, last fever, last pee, last illness … its frankly astounding the degree of details that moms keep track of for their child(ren).
Fathers when they rarely bring in the child … honestly … have no clue. they can never tell me how how high the fever was or when it started or when the kid was medicated … what they ate if they ate or vomitted and what the vomit looked like … a million little details that i ask for. heck they dont even know if the kid is immunized, or even their own pediatricians name. They usually have to get on the phone to ask the mom (who usually isnt there cuz of other kids at home). Perhaps not knowing these details doesnt make a father a bad one necessarily but in my opinion it does make them an uninvolved one. There is more to being an involved father then playing with the kid, giving an occasional bath or changing the diaper once in a while (which is the extent of most fathers involvement in child rearing).
somebody give @aahmed a hug… where is @Sentry when we need him…
its not just the commercials.. i think many working moms take what their hubbies do for the kids for granted… @aahmed, ignore them… what matters is what your kids think of you…that is the true measure of success and happiness
I don’t really see any relevance of the census bureau data to the commercials that OP complaining about. Clearly in the commercials the dads are present and involved, and yet they are made fun of.
As for your personal experience, you have a point there. I would say it is more because of the gender roles than anything else. Even in the western society, working moms are expected to take care of home and kids.
I think the data is important because it reflects societal trends. advertisers definitely pick on on the census bureau data and target the audience that’s buying. in housholds where daddy is missing or not doing much … its the moms doing all the groceries/dressing the kid/buying toys … it pays to flatter the buyer.
it also depends on the prespective of the person watching the commercial … i saw the one aahmed posted (the kitchen mess one) and i didnt think oooo dad sucks. actually i smiled … it made me think dad = fun. i wasn’t offended … but then im not a man.
Fathers are very important!! Don’t let this silliness get to you. My own abbu was very involved in raising all four of us, while my ammi worked the night shift at the hospital, it was my dad who gave us baths, cooked us meals, played us indian movies (k that was bad; but he didn’t know back then) and then at end of the night put us to bed. Best memories I have of my childhood is our abbu being there every step of the way
And I mean c’mon look at me…My husband does step it up his dad-ness when needed…(e.g: me getting my nails done and him playing daddy-o)
From what I have seen it’s usually moms who have a hard time letting go of control or letting dads do more.. My husband had to stay at home with our son for six months and let’s say I still showed up at the docs appt from work.. It wasn’t needed, he was very capable and knew everything about his son but it was hard for me to let go being the mom.
Yes moms need a break and most of us here get that often due to supportive husbands alhamdulillah but majority here won’t be thrilled if dad just took care of everything.. It’s the mothers nature to double/ triple check.. I was afraid how my son will adjust while I wa away with the second baby but it made no difference to him.. His needs were being met by his dad just like with me.. It was me asking over n over again did he eat.. How much did he play.. Etc etc
Alhamdulillah for wonderful husbands and amazing dads that most of us have.. Not everyone is that lucky
So true!! I can leave my son with my husband and not worry about him since he is so capable of caring for him Masha Allah. I wouldn’t be that mentally at peace leaving him with anyone even my own mother or MIL since i know they dont know his habits that well. But my husband Masha Allah knows our son so well .. I am proud of him for being so supportive and loving to our baby. Alhamdullilah!
There is NO denying the existence of involved, attentive and loving dads. My kids are blessed with one, Alhumdulillah. But the truth remains that MOST dads just aren’t as involved when it comes to raising children, mums still do most of the work. Aahmed, it’s awesome that you are so hands on, but know that you are a part of the minority.
Soooo…not to be facetious but is a woman who’s totally at ease leaving her kid with her parents or siblings or husband, a bad mother or not as loving/attached to her kid?
