Is it true that no matter how much pyar your dadko give you they can never love u as much as your nankolike nanko ka pyar hi alag hota hainand I feel that let’s say you have a phuppi who is also a khala, is it true that she will love her sisters kids more than her brothers? Is it true or am I just being silly?
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yehi woh baat hay jis say gharo mein larai-an start hoti hein and we men never pay much attention to such things.
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dadko aur nanko kiya hota hai? 
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Dadko are your dads side of the family and nanko are your mums side
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It's a bit of being a hypocrite when someone says that I love my sons children the same as my daughters but then they say that dadko ya nanko ka pyar hi alag hota hain, so contradictory
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In most cases, your dadka's visit you mor eoften and you get to see em more so u dont appritiate em as much as ur nanko coz u only get to see em few times.
Phopo's are very loving, more than Khalas i think however Mamoos are more loving than Chacha's and Grand parents are awesome all of em.
Thats in general, in some cases its different
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I didn't realise there was a difference. Everyone feels a different kind of attachment to their mum's side and dad's side which is usually due to the type of relatives, not because they're dadko or nanko.
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There's nothing that makes a khala or phupho or mamu etc more loving or unloving....it just comes down to family dynamics, values etc.
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yeh nanko aur dadko kia hai?
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I've always been closer to my dad's side of the family. Another generalization out the window please.
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I think dadkas become something along the lines of ghar ki murghi daal barabar. Then again, they are the ones who shared most of your childhood in a typical pakistani home where dad's parents live with him in his house. You can either get the best of love from them, or be silly and not appreciate what is in front of you. Nankas are more glittery and glamorous since you visit them less. Therefore I guess you would have more of their "laad" and less of their "disciplining" you which dadkas would be forced to do.
That said, the mother has a huge influence on her children and who they are exposed to and who doesn't get as much time or attention with them. Therefore, if the mother goes home often and visits her own blood relatives more with the kids, naturally the kids will associate more of childhood with them and develop more closeness with them (standard situation). If she visits the dadkas as often with kids, then they will get a chance to form that association too
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Is it true that no matter how much pyar your dadko give you they can never love u as much as your nankolike nanko ka pyar hi alag hota hainand I feel that let's say you have a phuppi who is also a khala, is it true that she will love her sisters kids more than her brothers? Is it true or am I just being silly?
Very Silly.
It would vary from family to family but in joint families its obviously the dadka side that is much more closer to the kids because they are living with them.
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I think dadkas become something along the lines of ghar ki murghi daal barabar. Then again, they are the ones who shared most of your childhood in a typical pakistani home where dad's parents live with him in his house. You can either get the best of love from them, or be silly and not appreciate what is in front of you. Nankas are more glittery and glamorous since you visit them less. Therefore I guess you would have more of their "laad" and less of their "disciplining" you which dadkas would be forced to do.
I completely disagree! I think its just very natural to be more inclined towards people you are sharing your life with otherwise kids would start loving their parents less too because of the disciplining and all.
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^^I took a little of both sides there Zareen. It's an either/or situation
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its like........the wife says........"meray ghar waalay zyaada pyaar kartay hain bachon ko............in-laws don't love the kids"........its that mentality at play besides the point mentioned above that nankay are visited less usually......so more pampering from them.
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This will vary from family to family. In my case, I'm not very close to relatives on either side of my family but generally I'm more fond of my maternal relatives.
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It depends on families how close relationship you have with your relatives of both sides. Some people are more attached to their maternal side or some with paternal side.
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It depends on your parents' relationships with their respective famillies. My father's the eldest of his siblings but he moved away to study abroad at a young age. The consequence of that being he never became too close to his younger brothers and sisters. My mother however, lived with her family right up until her wedding. Due to these very different family dynamics, I'm not so close with my dadiyaal (phupo's or chachu's), but my naniyaal (mamu's, mami's, khala's, khaloo's) is like my world.
It's just different for every family!
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dont care much.
though, if your khala, mammo, phupoo, chachu, etc are not married yet then you can expect a sorts of fun activities. if they are married and have kids then they want the same treatment for their kids as they give it to their nieces and nephews.