I think kids prefer nanihal or dadhiyal depending on who the MOM is close to. We grow up very close to our moms. We go where she goes. Nani ke ghar to stay etc. We start getting more attached to them. Its never an issue in families where both sides are well balanced by parents. You should never give preference to one side over the other and kids will grow up to love both sides of the family.
I say MOM because mostly desi kids when in the growing up stage spend more time with mom then dad. Some of us might be close to our dad but count the hours you spent with your mom vs the hours you spent with your dad. Ammi sirf apany ghar ki bateen kareen gei to bachay sirf nanihal ko janay gaey.
Hmmm well I am and have been more close to my dad side of the family. I love them dearly. My mom's side of the family is mostly not here and they are just ok.
i didnt get any love from either side. my father had no family at all so we had no love from there and mums family is in pak, so no attention from there.
My own view on this is that if the mother doesnt get on with her in laws then the kids will bear the brunt of that as mothers will tend to keep the children away so they dont have much association with dadkay. and also the mother can prob tell children ur dadkay are like this and that, my mother in law made nafrat in the heart of the kids for their dadkay, only now that theyre older they can see things for themselves.
My daughter gets no attention from her dadkay cos they dont like me so in return they dont make an effort with my daughter at all. my family live far so that leaves love for only when we go to visit. shame really
I think it very much depends on what sirt of response u get from both families! I get on with bith sides but prefer my khalas to my puppos and am more closer to my chachu than my mamu!!