Re: Dad & Khala
He snapped at me, didn't eat my food & said to my sister, 'I'm never eating that stupid cows food again, I'm gonna get married and only eat my wife's food'.
Owch. That's rude! Can't believe he called you a cow!
I'm really sorry to hear you lost your Mum. May Allah grant her Jannah. Ameen.
Sadly your Dad's Nikkah ended the day your Mum died. (Different for a Widow though as she has to wait for a few months until her Nikkah ends.) He can Islamically remarry asap, though I can understand how hurtful this can be for you. I'm surprised he waited 3 months - that's a long time for Pakistani men! My Mamoo asked to remarry within a week of losing my Mami! That hurt esp' as I was so close to her but I soon realised my Mamoo is just made that way! He married within a month. One of my cousin's remarried after 6 weeks of losing his wife. But strangely all the widows in our family never remarry again saying they'll wait to be reunited with their husbands in the next world. Lol.
You say your Dad talks to your Khala in the late nights - maybe he talks about his 1st wife and pours his feelings out to your Khala. Maybe your Khala does the same. Both had such a close link to your Mum after all.
I noticed you kept saying that your Khala waited until your Mum's death to marry your Dad. I firmly believe such kismet only Allah swt holds. Your Khala could never have predicted that her sister would die before her. Your Khala remained unmarried as her time to marry wasn't written earlier.
This is a temporary world and we'll never find permanent happiness here. Your Dad's mind is made up and it looks like he'll get his way. All you can do is accept that he wants to get married, move on and try to find your own happiness. Otherwise you'll just stress yourself out so much over something you have no control over.