Dad & Khala

[Shak]

Re: Dad & Khala

@Ess_Emm

I think if it’s a question of companionship, then there is nothing wrong with getting remarried, and well as they say, saali aadhi ghar wali hoti hai (sorry OP) and perhaps your dad is pursuing this rishta because he feels that since your khala is your mom’s sister, both will have the same personalities, something which he himself has grown accustomed to. However, knowing that you and your siblings are in your 20’s, it’s pretty lame to give an excuse of “it’s for your betterment” because soon your brothers will have their wives to take care of them, and you yourself will be married and will have your husband to who will take care of you. It does seem odd that soon after your mom’s passing this has come up all of a sudden as a viable option. Talk to your mamoons, and ask them to talk to your khala why is she really pursuing this relationship. And if possibly if they could hold off to the wedding until everyone has properly grieved. All of you are still in your mourning period and at this point nothing makes sense.

I agree.

There is nothing wrong with remarrying (even though to me a parent marrying my aunt/uncle just seems wrong but that’s just me) and if he wants to marry her then he should. You should remember he has lost his partner, someone who lived, breathed, talked, laughed etc and everything with him 24/7. That is a big blow.

Best way is instead of everyone breaking away at a time when they all need to be together in this hard time the marriage should be delayed. Let everyone calm down, gather themselves and then if two adults choose this then noone has any right to tell them not to.