Re: Dad & Khala
this is what i was also thinking. and you know, i don’t blame you for feeling the way you do OP. your dad has been happily married for twenty seven years, three months on from your mother’s death and he wants to marry your khala with the excuse it’s for the betterment of the kids? and what betterment is there if he continously threatens to kick you out over your khala? does your khala know about this? and she still wants to marry him knowing he’s willing to give up on his own children over her? and if she does know about it, or is okay with it.. then what kind of a mother figure could she ever possibly be? if she doesn’t know about it, why don’t you fill her in? let her know this is how things will go down if you don’t accept that he wants to marry her. see what she has to say.
yes, he deserves companionship. but him seeking companionship has a time and place, which is not when the wounds are still fresh and everyone is grieving. and yes, people do odd stuff when they are grieving but he is an adult with children.. the least he can do is be more mature about it and ASK his kids why the rejection or try to empathise more. he is not a teenage boy who has been deprived of “companionship” - people adjust after the death of their spouse.. and eventually some do meet another, theres nothing wrong with that.. but like i said, time and place.
Some really good points. I didn’t look at it this way. I can see how It could turn into a big disaster and ruin lives of many if Khala’s intentions are ill. It could also be that this is an emotional decision on dad’s part and it would be better to just wait it out. Once his mind clears, he will change his mind.