Re: Dad & Khala
I totally understand. It’s a betrayal. I would still give him the benefit of the doubt that grief is the cause for the altered behaviour.
And the thing is if the person who wanted to remarry after 2 months of their spouse passing away was a neighbour, friend, coworker I would tell them they were insane, completely loco. This is not a good time to make long term relationships and it will be a huge huge mistake.
So even if we set aside your feelings what your father is doing is not a good idea. If at 6 months time he had started the proceedings involving all the family then it would have been far more palatable. He knows he’s messing up, that’s why he’s hiding his behaviour.
And it looks like you’re taking up the lion’s share of the household work. This is not fair and it’s obviously making you unhappy. Take some time off, visit friends, take a day trip. I know you won’t feel like it after your tragedy but you need to take care of yourself.
And keep silent, don’t argue, don’t get yourself worked up. You’ve said your piece and now it’s your father’s turn to resume communication.