Re: Dad & Khala
I think this part basically summarizes how you feel about this entire issue.
You feel betrayed, and you’re suspicious of your khala’s actions. Talk to your father. Say exactly what you wrote here. See what he has to say. And then ask him if he can postpone it all for a few months, until all of you have properly grieved. Have this conversation in a calm manner. Listen to your dad as much as he speaks to you. This maybe will then give all of you time to think things through. Meanwhile, ignore your dad’s teenage-like habits. He’s dealing with his grief the way he thinks is best.