Dad & Khala

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Re: Dad & Khala

@Sehrysh

I think remarriage is a great thing - why should someone spend their golden years alone.

That being said - remarriage this quickly and saying it’s for the kids, when it truly isn’t seems disingenuous. If he wants to marry for his own sake - come out and say so. I think the situation now feels like a “pick khala or the kids” scenario and picking the khala is like losing another parent.

Aside from talking to your mamus and asking them to delay the wedding for a year, I don’t know what other options there is.

Maybe he doesn’t want to admit that he wants to remarry for his own sake and for his own needs…as maybe he fears his kids will find it shameful or judge him.

OP, your dad can marry any woman, but maybe he agreed to marrying your khala because it keeps a connection to your mom…because maybe he feels that she will share some similarity with your mom as they both grew up in the same home and are sisters…so he figures there will be more compatibility in marrying a woman from the same family as his wife. I don’t blame you for being hurt given that it’s only been three months.