Re: Dad & Khala
I personally don’t think even if her objection has no solid reason that his behaviour toward his daughter is justified. To tell her to leave the house and insult her over her objection and claim she’s lying is incredibly harsh even if he is grieving. This is a big decision that affects the whole family so I think it is odd that he just imposes it on his family out of nowhere. Even weirder that if he was so close to the OP he would behave this way towards her. The whole family are going through a lot and his first priority should still be his children, especially now. If he still wants to marry her he could have gently spoken to his family about it, gotten the mamoo’s involved to discuss it with the children, brought the khala in, etc. I can understand he’s grieving too, but I think he’s handled the situation very poorly.
OP I’m sorry that you’re in such a difficult situation, I think you should consider that your father will need companionship and that your khala is a sensible choice because of the family connection. But I think you need to continue to involve your other family in this situation based on how he’s behaving towards you. Try to reason with him and understand why he would act out like this. How are your other siblings holding up?
My siblings object to it. Intially they were very vocal about it but then they stopped saying anything about it to Dad. Instead they stopped speaking to mums family. They do voice their concern to me. I believe they don’t speak out in front of dad anymore because they fear he’ll behave with them the way he behaves with me. But because of this, it’s easy for my dad to belive I’m instigating