Re: Dad & Khala
I would have been okay with marrying the khala thing but the hidden behaviour and acting like a teenager is so messy. Isn’t there any other elder you can seek out (I’m going to guess there isn’t because you would have gone to them already.)
Your father could be ill/depressed and showing the symptoms in this fashion. A lot of the time such altered behaviour is one of the signs. He might even be lashing out because he’s scared to lose you guys.
Don’t instigate him. Don’t engage in taking potshots. Keep doing what you’ve been doing, silently.
Make sure any inheritance you have is safe and he isn’t making any secret wills. You also need to see what your financial situation is. If you can stand on your own feet then you need to start looking into it. Your father is being highly irrational and you need to have some safeguard if indeed the marriage takes place and he kicks out the adult kids.
Really sorry for your loss. I hope you find a resolution soon.
There are no elders. We’ve not had a relationship with dads side, dad included. Only relationship we’ve had is with mums brothers and sister. It’s hard enough losing a mum so suddenly, dealing with being the mum for everyone and then being subjected to this treatment by my own father.