Dad & Khala

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Re: Dad & Khala

@Theorist

But your objection should have a solid reason. You have no reason! That is why he is acting out because you are not understanding what he is going through and perhaps he doesn’t understand what you have been through. You dad has a good reason to actually marry her because that way he can bring her here so she could look after you!

You seem to be taking this as if he is rejecting you over your KHala. He is not! You should understand his situation too. Raising kids is not easy and you still have a 14 year old to look after! You may not need her, but the 14 year old needs a mother.

I personally don’t think even if her objection has no solid reason that his behaviour toward his daughter is justified. To tell her to leave the house and insult her over her objection and claim she’s lying is incredibly harsh even if he is grieving. This is a big decision that affects the whole family so I think it is odd that he just imposes it on his family out of nowhere. Even weirder that if he was so close to the OP he would behave this way towards her. The whole family are going through a lot and his first priority should still be his children, especially now. If he still wants to marry her he could have gently spoken to his family about it, gotten the mamoo’s involved to discuss it with the children, brought the khala in, etc. I can understand he’s grieving too, but I think he’s handled the situation very poorly.

OP I’m sorry that you’re in such a difficult situation, I think you should consider that your father will need companionship and that your khala is a sensible choice because of the family connection. But I think you need to continue to involve your other family in this situation based on how he’s behaving towards you. Try to reason with him and understand why he would act out like this. How are your other siblings holding up?