I feel embarrassed that I am making this thread. Better place for this thread would be a forum for teenagers.
Anywho.
Parents needed me to move back home for a while, so I did. Now my “curfew” has gone back to being at 10pm. My life is in downtown Toronto and parents live in suburbs, about an hour away. I have to leave my gatherings by 9pm, when they are JUST getting started.
I was wondering what kind of curfews most of you have to deal with. Tell me how old you are, where you live and what your curfew is.
Most importantly, have you tried to push it back? I am going to do that. I will meet with a lot of resistance, but we’ll deal with it.
how old are you?
I dont really have a curfew...my work sometimes finishes at 11:30 pm anyways, sometimes later. If I am out, my parents will call and check up on me, but thats all.
I remember back in highschool, for a while there, my work used to end around 10ish. And I used to get home by 11. It wasn't a problem then, because it was work. Not ok by them when it is not school or work; hanging out with friends until "late" is the issue for them.
i'm 22, live in london and i don't really have a curfew. sometimes mum calls to check if im ok etc and i usually get home by 12.30 at the latest and my parents are cool with that. i reckon if i stayed out later than that they would probably call me n tell me to make my way back home
LOl ... i suppose ur family is in sauga or brampton ... well i'm 24 up until last year my curfew was 1030ish -11 unless it was something bgi and i wld tell me in advance that i'm gonna be lat e... even now if i'm late i call home and tell my parents that yea i'm gonna be late ... but after living alone for about 5 years for uni ... the curfew was never really tough whn i moved bak home from uni ... and ur curfew is reasonable to be honest ... the max u can/should do is get it extended for fridays to about 1130 12 ... i suppose ... u gotta realize that ur a grl too so things won't exactly be the smae for u
LOl ... i suppose ur family is in sauga or brampton ... well i'm 24 up until last year my curfew was 1030ish -11 unless it was something bgi and i wld tell me in advance that i'm gonna be lat e... even now if i'm late i call home and tell my parents that yea i'm gonna be late ... but after living alone for about 5 years for uni ... the curfew was never really tough whn i moved bak home from uni ... and ur curfew is reasonable to be honest ... the max u can/should do is get it extended for fridays to about 1130 12 ... i suppose ... u gotta realize that ur a grl too so things won't exactly be the smae for u
Yeah, that's what I want too. I like being home early enough on weekdays. I like to relax and rest before the next workday. Friday and Saturdays are two days I'd like to stay out later than usual.
Just had a convo with mom. Urgh. She wants me home on weekends. Not going out at all because she is home alone all week and likes people home on the weekend. Urgh, I can't do that. She is not happy with me.
It is SUMMER! Summertime in Toronto is like everything has come back to life. I can't stay at home when it is so nice outside.
For a few years in college, before I was married my curfew was 9 PM. and thats ONLY because I had a late class (which I had deliberately signed up for :p). After I got married, there was no curfew. When my parents come visit I don't meet friends any way so its irrelevant. When I go and meet friends my husband doesn't impose a "curfew" on me at all.
Im 20. I live in Uk. and aslong as im with someone parents dont say anything last time i came home was at 5am. Parents dont mind at all. Other hand my bf has alot to say about it. lol bless him!
I've lived at home throughout uni and my curfew for the vast majority of the time has been 10pm. I did get away with coming home later if it was a special occasion. Recently though my parents have chilled out a bit probably because I drive. I can come home whenever as long as I let them know in advance. I'm 23 btw!
I did have to argue with/coax my parents a lot for them to be more lenient. They didn't understand why socializing during the day at uni wasn't sufficient. Don't give up, if you start mentally preparing them in advance then they might come round to the idea.
Yeah, that's what I want too. I like being home early enough on weekdays. I like to relax and rest before the next workday. Friday and Saturdays are two days I'd like to stay out later than usual.
Just had a convo with mom. Urgh. She wants me home on weekends. Not going out at all because she is home alone all week and likes people home on the weekend. Urgh, I can't do that. She is not happy with me.
It is SUMMER! Summertime in Toronto is like everything has come back to life. I can't stay at home when it is so nice outside.
hey dude ... so listen this is wat u shld do ... the more u argue the harder its gonna get ... so try compromising ... u already have friday night ok ... so thats fine ... and on saturday u can compromise for either nite out or the evening and try to compromise on goin out around 5-6ish and come back by 10 11 so u have a decent amount of time out with frnds ... i think if you let mom choose between u goin out at nite or during the day she'd probably lean towards u goin out in the day for a lil bit and u can convince her to give u evenings off
Idk if any of you have this problem…but it really is so difficult to hang out with friends when u have a strict curfew…esp when many of them are not understanding of it and/or aren’t very considerate of yours…
Me personally I really hated being “late” and was always scared and dreaded the fighting and stuff for when i’d get home…i tried to avoid it as much as possible…whenever it was time for us friends to get together half of them would show up like the last hour i was supposed to leave. Then top it off with having so much fun that you don’t want to go or they wont let you go…
I've lived at home throughout uni and my curfew for the vast majority of the time has been 10pm. I did get away with coming home later if it was a special occasion. Recently though my parents have chilled out a bit probably because I drive. I can come home whenever as long as I let them know in advance. I'm 23 btw!
I did have to argue with/coax my parents a lot for them to be more lenient. They didn't understand why socializing during the day at uni wasn't sufficient. Don't give up, if you start mentally preparing them in advance then they might come round to the idea.
Yeah, I am planning on sitting mom down and talking about how at times I will be out until later on Friday and/or Saturday, sometimes both days. I am not a party animal, so I won't be out every chance I get. I also need to make it very clear that at times I will stay over at friends' places in downtown when I know I want to hang out with them until much later. Will obviously let her know of those plans in advance.
I am thinking of giving her one of the days of the weekend, when I will be home for the most part, or be in the home zone running errands etc. I like being home too. I don't like being outside every single day of the week. I like my lazy days when I just stay home and do nothing.
I know when school starts again, I will have NO time to do that with school, work, volunteering and possibly the commute.
Hmm, that sounds pretty ok. If I explain it to her well, I don't think she will have much of an issue. I hope my dad doesn't either.
Thankfully, this hasn’t been an issue for me lately, because all of my friends are really busy these days. I have been hanging out with bf’s friends and all of them hang out much later in the day. And they aren’t exactly MY friends for me to push them to come out earlier.
Plus, the issue with scheduling. Because everyone is so busy and has so much going on, our schedules don’t always match. I know it is a very downtown/young lifestyle thing to start hanging out much later in the day. That way you have all day to get your stuff out of the way. With curfews that early, it just becomes very difficult.
hey dude ... so listen this is wat u shld do ... the more u argue the harder its gonna get ... so try compromising ... u already have friday night ok ... so thats fine ... and on saturday u can compromise for either nite out or the evening and try to compromise on goin out around 5-6ish and come back by 10 11 so u have a decent amount of time out with frnds ... i think if you let mom choose between u goin out at nite or during the day she'd probably lean towards u goin out in the day for a lil bit and u can convince her to give u evenings off
She DOES prefer it if I go out earlier in the day, as opposed to later. But I am greedy :p. I want to enjoy both the Summer days and evenings, probably not all in one day.
The better question is what time do you think is reasonable for a single girl to be arriving home after an evening out?
I get that 9 and 10pm may be a bit early some nights - but maybe you could compromise and say - Monday to Thursday - you agree to a 10:30pm curfew. On Fridays, you negotiate a later evening - maybe 12pm and on Saturday - say 12 pm unless you pre-arrange an even later evening. The key is to negotiate and to be open about what you're doing - if you've got something to hide - the parents are not as likely to agree to your curfew requests. And more important when you tell them a certain time - you stick to it unless you call ahead and explain why you'll be late.
what field do you work in that you can afford to stay out so late? I also work in downtown... and if I'm not in bed by 9:30-10:00, I'm dead the next day.
