Re: ...Cultural Clash...
Shikra, I can't specifically comment on your situation, but I feel one of the problems with desi culture is carved-in-stone roles, who have refused to grow and evolve with time. For example, a woman who was resentful of her mother-in-law's interference in her daily life, assumes the role of her mother-in-law when her son starts his married life. We have to get rid of the cultural baggage that comes with these roles to solve these issues. People can free themselves of this unnecessary baggage and still be caring parents and obedient/loving children.
It looks it's more like a clash of roles, dictated by the culture and society, than a cultural clash itself, because the level and nature of interference from desi parents can also vary a lot..