I think that's maturity. Your SIL has full understanding and "accepts" the good turn of events that life brings.
People who cry are mostly people who are not ready to "accept" change in life.
I so don't agree with that one.
There are no hard & fast rules that you have to cry or not cry on your rukhsati but at the same time people who end up crying its a natural thing I guess. Its not that a person is not ready to "accept" any change in their life.
On my ruksati we didn't cry. I was comming back to the UK with my parents, so there was no real ruksati. Also my dad was telling me in my ear that: kal mein tumhe line ahun ga, that was for pagpera.
i think pagpera is when the girl comes back to her mum n dad to stay for a few days
im quite an emotional person anyway...so i think i will defo cry...like hysterically...
my cousin is getting married soon iA and i know we are ALL going to be hysterical...shes quite emotional too...it was he magani th other day and she was crying..i was crying...my brother was crying her sister was cryng...lol..
On my rukhsati my dad started crying, i started crying... so my husband kinda bundled me up and put me in the car. i asked him later why'd he hurry me up to get in the car. He said " cos seeing Dad cry was making me(him) cry"
I didn't think I would cry but I ended up BALLING LIKE A BABY during the rukhsati. I've never cried in public in front of THAT many people like that in my entire life. And my husband's entire kandan was crowded around and watching me cry like a little baby (so uncomfy but it didn't stop me). On the bright side, even with all those tears shed, my makeup did not move an inch!
I think that's maturity. Your SIL has full understanding and "accepts" the good turn of events that life brings.
People who cry are mostly people who are not ready to "accept" change in life.
I dont think thats true. Just cause a bride cries dont necessarily mean shes not ready to accept change. It might just be that shes going to miss her old lifestyle or the easy going life a girl has with her parents is completely different from the one she lives at with her in-laws. With your parents, You can yell, scream and not answer them but yet theyre still going to love you with all their heart. At your in laws even one mistake can become hell for you!
I know many brides, who didnt cry at their wedding but were definately not prepared for all the responsibilities a marriage brings.
but sometimes makes me think - what’s the point of crying on the day - I mean save your tears ! you’ll be crying for the rest of ya life there after anyways
@ my cousin's wedding in london everybody cried..but the top was my 6 years cousin who lives in holland and met the bride the first time at the wedding started to cry a lot and saying "hayeeeeee hayeeeeee meri s. baji chali jaayen ghe, haeee meri baji, hayeee woo jaa rahee hain!!..." i was near to her but @ that moment i was busy to cry but when at home i thought about how she was crying i started laughing and told it 2 everyone...well it was really funny..and now we r expecting an other "performance" next year at my sis wedding!!
my to be hubby said that if i cried he would be angry lol he said he should be the one crying coz he has to leave his parents in pak...and we bought a house literally a street away from my moms house..lolz...i thought that was halarious...
nobody cried at my wedding really, rukhsati time was pretty chill really, we had asked the dj not to play any sad music anyways so it was more just telling my parents i was really tired now and could we go. pretty much just got up and walked out of the hall, said see you tomorrow and got in the car, hehe. i'm glad though coz everyone was relaxed and happy and cheerfully waving bye and thats how i wanted it.
then again i've been living by myself for 5 or 6 years so getting married was no different than me going back to university or work.
Ok so at my ruksati i cried BUT it wasn't because i was sad abt leaving my family and I, but because i was really mad at my in laws and couldn't believe that i was going into that family.
