At what age do you think one shouldn’t have crushes anymore? I thought I am at a crush proof age now (reaching mid thirties) but I have fallen into it and having a hard time becoz of it.
When I see her and talk to her, her voice keeps echoing in my head for weeks. When I ignored her and avoided talking to her, it didn’t make much difference. Approaching her and talking to her hasn’t worked either as she is hard to catch and hold. I find myself in a situation where there is no way out.
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Remove the core issue, you are suffering becuase of the core thing, remove it and live a happy crush free life.
:)
PS:i dont want to make myself crush proof, so this is not from personal experience :)
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Remove the core issue, you are suffering becuase of the core thing, remove it and live a happy crush free life.
And what do you think is the core issue?
PS:i dont want to make myself crush proof, so this is not from personal experience :)
I will ask you about that once you have a crush on someone who is within your reach but you cannot get.
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^ALLAH Pak behter karain
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ummmm. i think after high school. (16 yrs)
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I think when you get married.
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so you’re like Tantalus no matter how much you desire it you can’t have it.
why can’t you go ahead with your crush? whats preventing you?
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Only your reluctance to tell gave me a hint what you are calling the core issue 
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In the times of the Ottoman harems, the guards had their core issues removed and that made them crush proof.
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lol at tantalus.
I’m not 100% certain but I try to be realistic as she will be gone soon. I have seen her for many months but couldn’t get a chance all that time (although I made her offers at every opportunity). What I have not been able to do in the 90% of the time spent with her, I will not be able to do in the remaining 10% of the time, that’s what makes me beleive I have no chance now.
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In the times of the Ottoman harems, the guards had their core issues removed and that made them crush proof.
Well, Ottomans are long gone and no one can ask them how it felt, so talk about your own experiences please :D
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when one is in diaper. Any age after that is not crush (and crash) proof
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the age when one has all kinds of annoying problems on their mind. crushes become nuisances. 
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You're in your mid-thirties and you're still letting people crush you?
And then some people wonder why age and maturity don't go hand in hand. Disappointed, herp derp.
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I dont think age has anything to do with this, lot of people stay like this for all their life, it depends on how much you love or how much you want to keep that crush:faizy:. Its human nature we do say we want to get out of it, but we dont really mean it from the inside, cause from inside we dont want to change:frusty:. All you have to do is think straight, rather than go in circles of the same thing and same person. Life is like a ocean there are many treasures down deep the sea one must dive deep to find them 
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single ho?
if yes, then what is the problem. you can avoid her and keep your gazes lower when she comes toward you.
scientifically, when your testosterone level goes down, your crushes will also stop and that is your crush proof age.
You also need to change your diet, avoid all those food which could create desire in you. 
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Well, Ottomans are long gone and no one can ask them how it felt, so talk about your own experiences please :D
Peace maait
Ok, well I'll be honest with you ... you need to create a trigger in your mind that every person of the other gender is a sibling. Then convince yourself of that. I was already crush proof, but an endeavour to become plutonic master ... I found this to be the only way that I could rise in a spiritual way. I felt that my level in spirituality came to a drastic drop each time my mind focussed on women ... I could not focus on my Lord. I had to set-up methods to stay focussed.
Often there will be a trigger - i.e. something about that person that ensnares you ... you need to avoid that part, for example - you said "her voice" - that is called the "avenue of distraction" you need to block that avenue - there may be more avenues you need to block them too. Certain psychological tricks can help do that. I hope that helps.
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^thats gross
because then when you get married you'll be thinking of sleeping with your sister! D:
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^thats gross
because then when you get married you'll be thinking of sleeping with your sister! D:
Peace kakee
No, what you said was gross ... what I said should have been understood with a bit of discretion.
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There is no crush proof age, unless you are married and the crush isn't your spouse :D