It all started during my uni dayz. I started 2 lyke dis incredibly lovable gurl. She wuz cute, intelligent, pretty. Luckily enuff, she reciprocated my feelings and a pure, decent relationship started. I never intended 2 fool arnd. V shared, cared a lot and time flew by n I neared my graduation. I thot of it as a perfect oppurtunity 2 propoze and she duly accepted. Naturally, I was over da moon. My mom went 2 her parents, evrything waz goin just fyne. Suddenly, rte b4 v were abt 2 get formally engaged, she calls me up n asks me never 2 contact her again. U cant imagine how unexpected waz it. I asked her the reason, she waz lyke dat if u luv me, u wont ask fer ne reason. My mind went blank n I hung up da fone. Few dayz l8r, I asked her sister abt da reason, she waz equally clueless n sed dat she just keeps quite abt all dis.
Following dayz were very hard. I thot abt possible reasons.
she is interested in sum1 else (highly unlykely)
She is mad at me fer sum reason (highly unlykely agai, asshe is da one who alwayz takes her anger out n iz very expressive)
Cold feet. She suddenly found o8 she isnt ready fer marriage (possible)
Soon wid no contact 4m her, I gave up and tryed not 2 think abt her. I was graduated and didnt c her much either so stopped thinking abt her and got bizy in daily lyfe. But recently, I realized dat deep inside, I still miss her and thinking what if she misses me 2, I decided 2 give her a call during last days of Holy month. She asked me 2 meet her first weekend after eid and it is dis saturday.
Obviuosly I am happy dat she is goin 2 meet me and maybe resume da relationship but I also fear dat she vill tell me da reason and break it off permanently. So maybe I lyke not knowin. Yes I will be confused all my lyfe y did she braek up and will not no the reason. But on the other hand I will kick myself few years down da lyne for not goin.
I m very much clueless being at crossroads. Wat do u ppl can advise here? hv seen quite nice advices since I registered so maybe I will get few myselph.
I think that you should go and meet her. You deserve an explanation, and regardless of what she says, you will have some closure on the situation and eventually be able to put it behind you and move on with your life. Who knows, perhaps the two of you will be able to patch things up, but you should be prepared for the worst just in case.
If you don’t go, you will mostlikely always wonder about what happened and go through all the ‘what if’ scenarios. Can you really handle that? Will you be able to move on not knowing? Only you can answer this.
After failing to get thru what u wrote I think it may have something to do with they way u write but u deserve an honest answer regardless. Go and ask her.
ok she definitely owes it to you to explain her side. its messed up to call someone and say that 'its over...dont ask for a reason bla bla'.
also have you considered what her parent's real reaction was?
also are you really sure no one gossiped about u to her? some bitchy friend of hers maybe? alot of times external influences and advice messes up people's relationship.
im gonna give u an example....if i EVER found out my guy just had a bachelor's party i would not only ditch him on marriage day but insult him in front of everyone :)........
u should go..
i think u should ask her what her reason was that she didn't continue the relation.. i think if u dont go u'll have that question on ur mind for a long time..
Mehnaz, that is one scary Avatar, Jeeee-sus. You are forcing me to skip reading your posts. I feel like that thing is staring at me. WTF is that thing??
I think u need to hear her explanation either way. If u guys some how get back together, u need to know y she left u the first time...and if u decide to permanently go ur seperate ways then u also need an explanation, so that u do not ponder "y did she do that", and torture urself for yrs to come...i think u shud go and hear wot she has to say at least but just don't get ur hopes high...think of this as the last hurdle, after this, either way it goes u need to move past wot happened...i feel so bad for u, and i hope it works out cos it seems like u really love her...good luck :)
It was? I usually write more for some reason
And i can understand ur English just fine…just dat u put 'd’s instead of 'th’s
I know wot ur saying, just hope u won’t get ur heart broken again…let us know how it goes…good luck again
but u deserve an honest answer regardless. Go and ask her.
