Cross examination of posters.

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LOL come on one muslim brother to another - i got you, didnt i? ;)

just look at my math (lol at my ownself), doesnt it make sense in disregarding 95% of the responsed posts? be honest

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this doesn't even make sense. We can never determine the level of intellect or knowledge on a certain topic of the person behind the other side of the keyboard/screen.

Also even 51% vs 49% a majority too?

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that's explains a lot.

when an opinion is solicited there is some expectation of logic......and some expectation that the respondents will provide "credible" answers.

thanks for obliging me with your explanation.
I completely know what to do with your contribution now. :D

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May be you are not at that age yet where people look up to you for help with their personal issues. But I get these kind of requests in real life too .
Three examples:
A couple of days ago I got a call from one of my friends to start calling all my friends in the city I moved from . He told me one of his wife's cousins got married to someone in that city 3 months ago but they treated her so badly that she ran away from home. She is only 18 years old . She took refuge in a restaurant and contacted him from there for help. He wanted someone to help her out to catch a flight to the city we live in now.

I opened a thread about a relative'ss wife who called me for help because her husband , my wife's cousin , had some anger management issues.

I opened another thread about a female family friend who's husband is a drug addict and was abusing her.

So I take my cue from real life and consider all posters innocent until proven guilty.

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'Personal attack' seems to be the new favourite phrase round here lately.. with most not even seeming to understand what it means..

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You are so right. Thanks for your sympathy. :k:

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^Not sympathy, just seen that phrase repeated about 20 times in Life1 over the last couple of days.. One person types it then 20 others repeat it totally out of context..

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so you are saying we dont cross examine them already? for what i know we have a pretty judgmental crowd on gs. we dont believe that easily we may pretend to.

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I am saying we do that , my question is :
Is it necessary ?

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Where's Diwana disappeared to anyway..

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you dont even know how i contribute

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yes if we have too m uch time on hand and no life of our own:(

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first comment, you dont know a single thing about me yet you commented. my ans you r wrong.

bro real life advice is a totally different ballgame

regardless of the thread or topic the 6 points i mentioned apply to alll

innocent until proven guilty - that is your philosophy thats fine. but its not my philosophy. IMO the job must be done right - you ask at GS should i divorce or not, ppl stay divorce him/her based on the 6 points. and you literally divorce - but then later when find out **** you sshoulnt have divoced, who are you gonna blame now. all the posters here? if you ask them would you take the blame they say hell no, use my advice on your own risk, now you tell me all this problems ppl and advices are genuinely honest and workable i say hell no

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You are getting emotional so you are not thinking thru. I qualified my statement by using "may be".
Please read my post again , it starts with "may be". My use of "may be" signifies that yes I do not know anything about you and I am assuming that you are not at that age where people come to you for advice but you might be asked for help in real life too.
So no harm done there as you are assuming that I am assuming that you are not old enough , you might be.
Second part is about the questioning . Questioning someone to get all the facts is one thing but questioning based on the assumption that someone is not telling the truth, when they come here for advice, is cruel.

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Same thing could mean questioning of facts for one person and it could mean cross examination for other.........

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Not really. There is a clear demarcation between cross examination and questioning for facts.

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so you are agreeing with me? if i am seeking genuine advice i should disregard your advice because it has a bunch of maybe in it, right?

hence most of the advices/posts will be discredited

in regards to this post of yours, you said im emotional not thinking through etc. you dont know if im my boxes, or in my suite at work or im not illterally or phd, or if im a happy man or a sad man. you put some assumptions about me which i know are wrong so how can i give your post any regard

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we lost sight of the question!

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of course I know....I can read your posts.....they are your contribution to the discussion.

Just the fact that you think people should be able to "blame" someone for their own actions shows that there is a flaw in your thinking.

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That is clear for you........but its not something so black and white that everyone would agree with your demarcation.......

i am not saying that cross-examination doesn't exist......... but its just different for different people..