I know those ahadees too and the discussion on those ahadees. If you are a Muslim and you belive in your Prophet (SAW). You identify your Allah through your Prophet(SAW) that is the ultimate proof of a Muslims love for Allah(SWT) and His Prophet(SAW). You did not even see Allah(SWT) and His Prophet (SAW) and you believe in both , what more proof of ultimate love for both of them can there be.
You love your wife and your kids after seeing them that is an inferior love than the love you have for someone you never saw.
P.S: Sister Hareem asked me to tell her why I think this hadees and her philosophy is weak and I did.