Numb,
Do you know how I became a gupshup member? I want you take a look at my very first post. Yes, I became a member because someone was- for lack of a better word- was complaining about me...
Was I hurt? yes, i'm only human. But I realized that this is the moment where if I swallow real criticism, I can be a better person. Did I think that someone did wrong? No, I realize it was a public forum, and she did not know I read GS on and off, and it was something of a million and once chance that that kind of thing would ever happen, and thus I doubt it would be considered backbiting! It is the same as sending a letter to an advise columnist and asking advise....
Numb, reading your past posts, I believe you have a lot of anger within you, and you are releasing it here.
Life isn't as simple as being blunt....And I had to learn this too! People have fragile hearts, and telling someone to just "back off" does more harm then good. To get what you want and still maintain friendships, you have to use tact.